confused about being in relationship because of financial situation of the partner

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I am.engaged with a person who is financially very weak. He lives in a rented house and he is earning 30k in mumbai and i after engagement we met after 30 days and when i met him i feel that he is so so mischevious. He speaks a lot unnecessarily. When we met personally he was fulfilling all my demands like wht i needed but somewhere i felt that he was just caring for me he dont have such feelings i mean since after long time we met but he never holded my hands and said that now we are one and something that makes me feel so relaxed and nice. He was just busy driving the vehicle and i was just behind him...nothing else saying about how he feels and how i feels and all..there wasnt such talks...should i continue this relationship or not?

Babygirl

10 Answers
Z_Zidane
Hi, Please give more background on how you met. Was it love or arranged. Did you know him long enough or is he a family friend. For time being ask him about his plans for his future or after marriage. Try to gauge him
Babygirl
I met him on social media before 1.5 yrs but we talked on phone calls i never met him personally. But after engagement have fixed i met just 30 days later and i found that in public he is over talking like wht he dont have to say that also he speaks and people then make fun of him.that i dont like and with adults he is behaving like he is much obedient person but i dont like that kind of nature and he really cares for me but i feel that he dont behave like understanding my inner feelings like i m nervous and he should hold my hands and all...so wht shall i do and i am financially much stronger
Z_Zidane
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Hi Babygirl, You met him after engagement, you should have taken sometime to know him in persoon. It different virtually and in person. Him holding hand and all will come with comfort may be you guys dint meet beforee so it wasnt ok for him. The best thing you can do now is dont get married in a hurry, instead, wait and take that time to meet him. Its better to take some time rather than jumping into a pit.
Babygirl
Ya u r right but if i will take time to know him and later on if i will do breakup then no will get ready to marry me coz in our caste its a bit problem and sometimes it depends on luck
Babygirl
So n in reality its possible only once in a month to meet him coz he is staying mumbai and i m in gujarat so how do i judge him?
Z_Zidane
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You should take sometime for yourself. When you meet someone you get to know them and there character. It comes with the number of times you meet. Even if you breakupp its better to be single for a while rather than suffer
Binny
Hi
chicAlwayss
You should think about yourself first
2605_youbeforeme
I think you should also try and talk to him about this behaviour of his. Analyse his reaction, that would make it easy for you to judge him. If you are not sure about him pls do not marry him. If you marry him and then realize that it wont work you will not only ruin your but also his life. Its better to break up if you have to. If you breakup, there will atleast be a hope about you marrying someone else, who loves and understands you. But if you are not sure about him and you still marry him and by chance if it doesnt work out, you both will suffer, you will think about all the unnecessary things before getting a divorce also. So think carefully and only marry him when you are very sure about him
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