confused mind need guidance

Question

I am 35 year old and unmarried in relationship with a guy . since our start of our relationship  I came to know that he was jobless, was helping him through loan . one point of time after a year and half he invested money in stock and incurred loss. Still he is in contact with me but due to all these Bank loans I have incurred huge debts . every month my father is only helping me . He recently  got job and had suggested me to come with him to the place where he is right now. He says he will book tickets . But , I am not able to trust him in giving him money for booking tickets . He is in Andaman now .And telling me that he will send tickets.  My inner mind tells to go but I am thinking about my parents who had done a lot to me. I need help . If I tell my father about this he will always tell me that I am sexually inclined and my mind is stupid etc .

nicenlone · Answer

there are many ways to check whether you bae is lying or not. VC him ask his address , name of the company in which he is working etc etc.. remember it is your life not your parents, just don't trouble them and do whatever u like

Agi · Answer

He is not revealing  his address of the company or resort just says its Havelock beach resort

Agi · Answer

He is only communicating through Insta alone . Not willing to share me his contact number . When I needed emergency  money since last month he is sending little money for my expenses . Due to past events on money .. I am having little doubts on him . He is sharing few photos of his new friends etc .

nicenlone · Answer

c'mon!!! persuade him, give him ultimatums, do emotional blackmail do whatever trick you like... pull out what he is hiding. I know u also want to go , so its better to double check everything

Agi · Answer

I already lost many lakh of money and he didn't return not even a single penny . Only since 2 months he is sending few amount.  He says that he is willing  to help me . Now he has joined a job but there he says he recieved  an information  that if he does a course he may earn 70 k per month.  He says he had arranged shelter etc . But asking me frequently  whether I got my salary or not . Telling me to send my salary 40 k so that he would book tickets . He says that if I book ticket my father will track me this and that.

nicenlone · Answer

how old is he?

Agi · Answer

when I do Vc he never attends , simply says he is at work . Suppose if he attends . it's mostly at bar atmosphere . Now he has fully shaven his head, changed a new number  also ( didnt give me that till date ) While talking itself he said he got his passport and changed his name . Which added doubt on him

Agi · Answer

He is of the same age 35 yrs

nicenlone · Answer

listening to your story it is quite clear that he is still jobless. now its up to you whether u want him as a companion or not . if u decide to go , be prepared for a lot of expenses

Agi · Answer

Yes , I can understand.

Agi · Answer

because of this choice of mine . I am now financially facing lot of challenges . My entire family wants to put him behind bars

nicenlone · Answer

I don't why at such a ripe age he is acting like a kid

nicenlone · Answer

i think u still love him

nicenlone · Answer

that's why u r not letting him go

Agi · Answer

I still.love him . My love is true . But I need spiritual grace to guide me

FrenzyPants · Answer

please listen...RUN. He might be a con man, or even worse. don't stay to find out how worse it could get.

FrenzyPants · Answer

let me tell you...a man who asks money from a woman this way like him, he does not love her. Ergo, he does NOT love you. and why is he leading a secret life and making you doubt his intentions? because HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU. why do you want waste more of the best years of your life to someone who only cause you and your family pain? you don't need guidance. you need to snap out of this fantasy that he would change and LEAVE.

shivang · Answer

you should stay away from him

shivang · Answer

while I am reading your post I don't why but I am having bad feeling

shivang · Answer

very clear indication, not revealing any details, still in loans ,

FrenzyPants · Answer

yes. con man = scammer

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