well if you think he can give you the love and care then why not be with him

talk to your parents try to make them understand show them how much you love your bf and your family and DON'T EVEN think about break up ask tham to give you a chance to show i know you can do it

I can't be with him as he is still unemployed and my parents will probably get me married in 2-3 months. Also, my bf lost his mother recently so he can't get married for like another year. I know where there is love there is a way, but I need to find a way to detach

i am not saying that what i am saying is you just need to make your parents support your love tell them you don't want to be with someone you don't love it will just make your life a hell if they truly love you they will understand your bf has lost his mother recently try to make him comfortable while taking your parents support try it you'll never know if you don't try

Samairah its not that easy

only solution is break up ie stop talking or reduce it. tell you are gonna married but you can't live with him or talk with him anymore . it's difficult but U have to do it. dil par paththar rakhkar karna padega

there is always a way. Have you trying to talk to your parents?

@whitedevil139 Well I haven't spoken to my parents since I decided to go by their decision. But then I started dating my neighbour.

@satesh- yes I agree with you. I need to reduce talking to him. He is already aware of my situation

you have to do it if you really love your bf you have to tell them if can't say directly then try different ways

Well my parents have already made it clear that they'd be the ones choosing the guy for me

you have tell them you alrealy throwed your hope it will not help

@excitedTomatoe7 , this will be more practical decision. and it's seems U understand it well. so U will make thing better n workable

@satesh- true. But I spoke to my bf about it and he said jb jo hoga dekha jaega main dekh lunga. He wants us to be together. I'm really in a fix here. I can't stay away from him either but I also know it's for the best

i will be straightforward. you are just using him. you know there is no future, then why wasting his time and feelings? you knew that you're about to get married and still you started dating your neighbour. you know what does that mean? you just wanted a timepass till you get married. I am being very blunt and I have gone through this, I faced this. you just need attention and you know it. people should never date someone until they really want to get married. I don't know why people play with feelings just for timepass and if it is mutual then it's fine (if both are for casual relationship) but if someone is serious and you are not, then you are just being selfish. into three months you will get married everything will be settled you will automatically get test and that's fact but what will happen to him how will he heal from that trauma? have your thought of this? no. because you just care about your feelings you are getting attention and you are taking it and after marriage you will still get attention from your husband. and you will live a happy married life but for him love will be the first thing in the world you won't be able to trust any girl after that mind it. here is an advice to everyone, don't date unless you want to get married to that person don't waste someone's time. please, you know what you are doing girl. just tell him that there is no future we cannot talk and we should not talk just tell him straight on the face but with kindness. Don't hurt him anymore

only stay together with your boyfriend if you can fight for him till the end. if you know you won't be able to fight then let this end don't waste is feelings and time

so your just gomma leave it on him and sit there watching you are supposed to be together in every problem

i guess i have to admit thriftybuck2 is right

marriage is all about love so what will u do if u marry a stranger i mean your parents are old generation so they dont know but u know for your whole life what u will do thats like a unjustice to 3 lives

@thriftybuck2- I totally understand your point and felt the same. I told him the same, that it would be difficult for him and we should end things. But he doesn't seem to understand. I agree with every word you said. But I don't want to be unfair to him. I don't understand whether to reduce talking to him or just tell him and break up.

@humorourMagpie7- I agree. But I'm wondering if I should still stay with my bf knowing we've no future together. I don't wish to play with his feelings

ok. means ur bf knew it before only that U were gonna married. but now U two developed feelings. look, if U R also confused, then atleast once talk to ur parents. if not, do as I said. mutual separation. with time, everything fade away.

@excitedtomatoe7 say sorry to him. say 'i am sorry, this is the best thing for both of us. baad mei bahot dukh hoga dono nahi jhel paenge abhi sirf 2 months huye hai . say sorry to him very nicely, pyaar se sorry bolo use, just say it. and uske baad block krdena sorry bol kar block krdena, pyaar se sorry bolna. cut off complete.

@satesh- Well my marriage is not fixed but yes anytime my parents find the right match would be the time for me. Gusss I'll have to talk to him. It's gonna be particularly hard since we're next door neighbours and see each other everyday

I don't think now that U shud continue after knowing that you two hve no future. it will also not good for ur marriage n ur new spouse

@thriftybuck2- Agree with you. But he is really sensitive and way too much into me. Also this is gonna be particularly hard since we're next door neighbours

@satesh- true

@excitedtomatoe7 you decide, 1week ka breakup pain, ya 6month ka depression. ye dono mei so uske sath kuch hoga. decide wisely. don't be selfish. 👍

Thanks to each and every one of you. I've been bothered for so long but now I feel heard and understood:)

@thriftybuck2- thank you