I kind of had the same situation but when I realized that I have this drive for attention I started rationalising this thought that everything can’t be according to me. Or I can’t have all the attention there are more important things that needs to be addressed first and this doesn’t make my worth any less.

List down the things that makes you feel better..may be looks or career wise progress or nature..anything..then write down the things that you dont like about yourself and say now. You may realize that you feel better when someone likes the things about that you don't like about yourself..now third step is accept the things that you dont like about yourself and try working on those things if they are changable(if not then just accept it and leave it) and slowly slowly you will start liking the things that you don't like about yourself and then one day you wont need any attention from outside...note: this process might need months or even yrs but dont give up. Keep growing😊