my father doesn't earned much my mother is the one who looks up to everything
and she and my father they never talk nicely to each other when ever thet talk they just fight
my mom insulted my father today
and I'm feeling so bad that he have to see everything in this life
I'm a girl
don't worry everything will be alright, try to talk to them and make them understand to maintain a balanced life with each other
What you are asking is clearly in front of your eyes
@ peaky you know i feel like why me and my brother have to see this like you can't not even understand what I'm feeling right now
it's killing me
yes, you are the one suffering but still everyone finds a hope to life , to resolve everything so try to make them understand with your efforts if they still aren't understanding then
you know now I'm having thoughts like i wish my father die so that he doesn't have to see all this and listen shit every time
don't say such things ,
try to find a solution.
I'm feeling terrible right now and feel so like i just can't explain but father had nothing all his life and like why why it's just written in our destiny to see all this
its okay to feel that way after going through all of this , Do one thing rn just calm yourself down
try deep breaths and calm down , if you want to cry , just cry vent it out and you'll feel relaxed.
i have grown up just looking this
but I'm feeling guilty
I'm not standing up for my father
why do you feel guilty?
in your view what does standing up for him means ? means what actions you think you can take
atleast i should have told my mother to not to talk rudely to my father today
she doesn't understand how she speaks badly
so why didn't you stopped her from saying those harsh words to your father?
I'm so done seriously people see me like i have no worries but only i know how my life is upside down
talk to her then, try to explain her how she should interact in the house.
i told as much as i can and even after that all so i told her not to talk badly to my father
but still I'm feeling guilty
everyone does the same dear, no one shows the upset life, painful life in public or to the ppl , we only express that side at our home or to our close friends
its okay you've tried, it's not like you didn't even tried , so don't blame yourself
i can't even said in my house because my problem start only from my house
I'm family is like this only all my life
yes I can understand how painful it must be for you , that you are not able to express yourself at home because of such conditions
you know that why i tried to find love from outside but i don't know how my destiny is even my friends are also all selfish
happens with other ppl too but it doesn't mean you don't make new friends or try to express at home..
life is hard for everyone just the situation is different in everyone's case.
if you are adult and working or independent then you have some freedom which is financial freedom. One option can be like distance yourself or shift to other city for job or study
so that you aren't bothered with all of this , but this will make the situation worse like for your father and brother as you said earlier
but I feel my father is dieing every day with this his just breathing not living
talk to your father in private just make him talk, like how he feels why is he not expressing himself
I think father and daughter share a good bond than a son and father
it's not like my mother is bad or anything it's just they just can't be on talking terms
he'll just never gonna share anything
I'm not stating that your mom is bad in any way , she might be correct in her thinking like sometimes we act according to situation so we think that we acted correctly in that phase but when viewed from others perspective you know that the person made a mistake by taking this step
have you tried talking to your father in private like only the two of you?
no but We have told him many times like please stop drinking and all and he says he'll not but he never stands on his words
and he wastes money on drinking and many times doesn't give enough money in the house so my mother gets angry
okay, try to talk to him or make him understand by his friends or family members
ohh that's a serious problem, he need to stop drinking
i don't understand why god has written our life's like this
don't blame on destiny or god , the things which happens with us are our deeds , like not in this life but the previous one
don't worry everything will be alright
yeah I am sure you can handle this very well and I agree @peaky04 try to communicate with your father and make him express himself because I guess something is bothering him no one drinks such a way with out reason
he drinks to forget the pain
make him talk and then he might stop this or try to avoid it at least
can understand but atleast he needs someone to talk
he's not that type of person who is ready to talk and he'll not even now i know his 51
I'm not saying just pretend like his buddy but atleast you can comfort him , and make him release that his drinking is bothering the whole family and making you worried about his health
I'm saying just talk about this not like what are the problems , ofc you are his child he's not going to share everything rightaway
you know what I guess even if my father won't say a word if something is bothering him because he thinks he can take it but it's our responsibility to understand and talk ...you can atleast assure him that everything will work out and try a little bit to make him speak on that topic so he can feel that he atleast have you who cares for him.
i understand what you are trying to say
yeah I understand
yes just make him feel comfortable and supported, you can do that right?
I'll try to make him feel better
and be brave like you have been from before , everything will be alright,
yeaah you can always vent to us but be brave and calm at home
one more thing, try some meditation for your peace of mind, like you must be having alot of thoughts and disturbed days , so just give it a try
thank you for saying this I'm a brave girl I've come so far without anyone
I'll try meditation
yes you are a brave girl and you are strong enough,
yes give it a try , to calm yourself down . There are also techniques like box breathing for instant relief from anxiety and stress
you don't know how much anxiety i have like in my office few days ago i had a anxiety and i can't even breath
yes then try box breathing its really helpful
and if possible try to engage yourself in some Pooja , like chanting a mantra daily or a stotras smtg like that to keep yourself happy and calm
I'm doing this but then after somedays I'm became lazy i can't do constantly
try to maintain it , consistency is the key
like my laziness is just
happens still try to maintain it
I'm feeling good now as I vent out all my pain thanks for listening to me