Dealing with abusive and toxic brother

Question

my mother won't take my younger emotionally abusive , toxic and unstable brother to pyschologist. I have literally begged her infinite times but she doesn't care how far he abuses me and her and she is literally tolerating him to a limit i just can't and i hate him so much that i don't even talk to him for months living in the same house. I feel really depressive and sad about these things going on in my life , literally broken apart when i see things happening in front of me and i just could not do anything and noone helping me. 😭😭😭😭😭💔💔

happyguy12 · Answer

can you explain what toxicity ur brother is protecting onto u

fallingStar · Answer

I told i don't talk to him for months so you should understand it is something serious which i just don't feel telling it at all 💔

happyguy12 · Answer

its ok i get it. if u feel like ur mom isnt ready to take ur brother to a psychologist and as u don't talk to him , u cant do it either. but if possible try atleast for once to talk to him about how u dont like his behavior and all. if he understands, its good for both of u. also u can ask any of ur  close cousin to take him to a doctor

fallingStar · Answer

He is really egoistic and the type of person who thinks he is correct everytime and others are wrong. Really immature in this aspect and only my mother could talk to her but he doesn't listen to her too.

happyguy12 · Answer

is he tired of ur brother too? what's his age btw?

happyguy12 · Answer

she* sorry i didnt notice the typo

fallingStar · Answer

i don't get the 1st q clearly? his age is 17

fallingStar · Answer

np

fallingStar · Answer

i just can't explain in words she is literally tolerating him , she has experienced so much pain in her life , and it hurts a lot

happyguy12 · Answer

guys at this age tend to be a bit egoistic and rude towards others. As u said  he doesnt listen to anyone except his mother, the  only thing possible is to convince ur mother. sit with ur mom and make her understand how him behaving this way can have a big issue in his adulting .

happyguy12 · Answer

why dont u ask your dad to talk to him?

fallingStar · Answer

I beg her everytime take her to doctor , but no action from her side. I m just tired of all this and how many times i say her she never going to take her ;(

fallingStar · Answer

my mom is a single parent

happyguy12 · Answer

do you know any of his friend ? like someone very close to him-his bestfriend or partner?

happyguy12 · Answer

ohh ok i get it

happyguy12 · Answer

i hope whatever he is doing , there is no physical abuse in it ?

fallingStar · Answer

all he has his bunch of those virtual gaming friends who he considers more than his family

happyguy12 · Answer

see i wouldve said that u can get rude to him and punish him or some shit like that. but maybe somewhere or the other he is facing some mental issues which he is unable to share with others

fallingStar · Answer

yeah , no physical abuse but really toxic in terms of talking and behaving with family

happyguy12 · Answer

u need to figure out a way to get to know what actually is going on inside his mind

fallingStar · Answer

He is so egoistic that he won't acknowledge it and go to see a therapist.

happyguy12 · Answer

i m also a 16 year old guy who doesnt talk properly with his parents. i am sometimes very rude with them . but they have never said anything back in response. i sometimes cry alone after shouting at my mom. i deal with overthinking and extreme anxiety which has made me this way. I want to share it with my mom but ik even if she asks me what my problem is ( in the most caring manner possible), i wont be sharing it with her. ur brother maybe is going through something similar and u really need to figure out some way to know whats in his mind

fallingStar · Answer

His mind can not by read by normal people like me alteast , only a professional can do , hurts me saying this but truth is truth in the end 💔💔

fallingStar · Answer

Sorry to hear that , but since you realise things happening to yourself you should tell them to your parents , here the case of my brother is on the extreme side

happyguy12 · Answer

as you said he considers his gaming online friends like a family , he must have shared these issues with atleast one of them . i will give u an idea( idk how much it's going to work), try to check his phone when he is sleeping - go to his socials and if possible search messages with certain keywords ( for example - ' issues ' , 'anxiety', 'depression' etc etc) . invading his personal space is extremely wrong but i cant think of any other possible ways by which you can atleast get to know his problems.

happyguy12 · Answer

my parents are extremely supportive in these cases , my mom has even taken me to a doctor once which wasnt of any use tho. Ik what my issues are and i m trying to work on it by myself . also i ve started to change my attitude towards my parents slowly so yeah... anyways lets get back to ur brother

fallingStar · Answer

Will try this on some day when he is in normal mood , really risky but the problem of him is more of ego and lack of empathy. Thanks a lot for your help and valuable time @happyguy12.

happyguy12 · Answer

try this when he is asleep or something like that. dont get caught,it might make him even more furious. best of luck and i hope he gets back to his normal self asap❤️

fallingStar · Answer

good to hear that for you :).❤❤

fallingStar · Answer

Hmm thanks again , good night ❤❤ dude

happyguy12 · Answer

goodnight ❤️

Too much stressed and depressed

My girlfriend left me for some another eventhough i sacrificed everything for her i can't imagine.

stuck with mad people