Have you been going through any major stressor in life?
Sorry to hear this and you must be going through a very tough time. Would you like to share with me what’s going on?
I've no idea ...about how and where i can restart my life..i feel only guilty about what I've done to my parents... i want to be bold like i was once.
I gave so much importance to a person than the words of my parents , friends , teachers, i forgot even my goals.
Amd now i started to hate myself...
I'm married and I've a baby , she's only 6 months old. I'm having problem with my husband, caused by broken trust.
I've been working and in living together with my lover since 2020 March..
When I missed my period, I talked him about going to the hospital.but he's been like no Tensions or seriousness about it. After that, couldn't consult the hospital for long time due to Corona Problems..Later when i went to the hospital and got tested i was pregnant for 5 months...We talked about it with our Parents.They were not even able to blame us in such a situation for what we did ...We came back to home and got married on 6th of January.
Then went to the work place back.
,i decided to resign my job Coz' of my health condition ..i came back to home on 10th of February..and he decided to stay there for work...He came back on 21st February...The next day Morning , a call came on his phone... i've attented the call and realized that there was a girl on the other side.
I asked her who she is...she didn't answered my question.she asked me the same .
I told her that i'm his Wife...
She repeated the same question with some anxiety...and i replied as 'yes , am his wife' And asked her about the purpose of her call....
Then she told me everything that she'd met him through a social media application and they were in a relationship for 2 years... occasionally there was a breakup and no contact from him for 1 year.and it's only been 1 week since he contacted her again...
It's been 3 and half years since We started Our relationship that time...then how is it possible about a 2 years relationship with her.🙂
He'd never told her anything about marriage...
She told me that he only said that he was still waiting...
More over all this, what hurts me the most was...,if i could help , there was some picz of her on his phone and she asked me to delete it all...
It was her nude picz , which he had asked her to send even before 2 day's ago..
These are the reasons why I'm getting depressed... its happened 8 months ago...and still I'm confused about what to do next....I'm with my parents now.
He doesn't care about the baby. He wants my parents to look after everything, but he wants the rights of the baby.
I gave him a chance even after I knew he was cheating on me.
He was not there with me when i needed him ... in the hospital, even on the delivery date.
He went to his own home town for seeing his friends.
After leaving, he was not even called to know about my health or the baby's🙂
I always called him to ask if he's coming...
But even when I called, he never asked that how I feel here or how was my health condition is..
Even if he sees a missed call, he will not call back. He never asked why I called.
I was there for him with even in his worst times...but he made me suffer alone in such a situation like when i needed him the most....
This is a very difficult situation to be in.
Let me process this.
You have been through soo much yet this man is not bothered about anything.
Cheating is not acceptable, think of your child do you want your baby to have a father like this?
Also he is asking for nude pictures from other girls. He must be doing this with others as well.
I would recommend you to take a stand for yourself and your child.
After the baby's birth, he contacted me and told me to give him a chance to live a good life as a family.
And he saying that ,now he have no other contacts with any woman .
Once he said he wants to stay with the baby for 1 day...i thought if he changed and i let him to. He came and stayed in my home. But he has no idea about going back even after 2 days. Things gone like ,my parents have to look after him too. He is not going for work., even not trying to get one. Food , video games , sleep , playing with baby and if he's engaged with his phone he didn't care about the baby.
After 1 week i called his mother., And told her everything about. His mother is almost like him. She asked me that, what else he have to do.
I replied her ,tell him to come back there we don't need him here with us..
And she's like nothing matters her.
Last she called him to..
Even if he stops contact with women, he has no intention of looking after the child or doing anything to the child.
In our culture, there is a custom that when a child is 6 months old, the father should give him gold or silver. He didn't even do that.
I want to end this...but I'm afraid about the society..🙂
Everyone will blame me for bring my baby to a hell like this...
Because it was only my decision to live this life with him...🙂
Do you think he can’t change?
If yes, then don’t think about the society.
You will suffer more in the marriage.
People will say things for a day or two and it will not matter in the long run