depression, body image issue and unhealthy relationship with parents

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Depression

Im fat and insecure about it so im exercising to change it but my mom doesnt like it she always wants me to study. she yells at me and hits me and calls my friends and tells them that i care too much aboit losing weight and looking good and asks them if im trying to impress any guy. i feel really humiliated. she yells infront of our neighbours that i care too much about my appearence and i feel very embarassed to go infront of them now. Because of this im feeling suicidal cause being fat is one of my biggest insecurities and i have told my mom about it too but instead of supporting me change it she humiliates me ibfront of my friends and neighbours and makes me feel ashamed. how do i show my face to my friends now how do i go out i feel very ahsamed

jubilantClam7

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Zoya Ahmad
Hey! Thanks for reaching out. I am sure it must be really difficult for you. I think you should keep exercising but not with the vision of setting into the societal standard of beauty because everyone is unique and beautiful in their own way. You should only focus on being healthy and active. Tell your mom that you are focusing on your studies along with that you want to stay active and healthy, tell her that you’re not to impress any guy but for your well being you’re doing it. Try to accept yourself dont be insecure. You’re already working on yourself and that’s enough. Tell your mom politely that you don’t liked to be called out like this. She could try not to do this in front of neighbours or your friends.
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Anxiety
like dont be sad be positive! sending you hugsssssss!
jubilantClam7
Thanks so much! Ive tried telling her politely but she doesnt understand and only gets more raged and starts screaming. I feel oppressed by my mom everytime i talk to her my mood becomes 100x worse. i dont know how to convince her with the horrible attitude she has
jubilantClam7
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@anxiety awww thanks so much lovely! <3 really needed a hug from someone rn
Zoya Ahmad
Can you talk to your dad, may be he could try to convince your mom?
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jubilantClam7
My dad also joins her and hits me. This is why Im feeling suicidal cause both of my parents dont understand me they just hit me yesterday I passed out when I woke up there was scars all over my arm. they have 0 sympathy for me if u tell them im feeling depressed and suicidal they say just die what is the point of u living anyway u dont listen to us
Zoya Ahmad
I am so sorry to hear that. I am soo sure it must be really difficult for you. Just don’t lose hope. Keep focusing on yourself, your studies and health. Try to ignore negative comments and don’t back answer your parents they will just make it a poijt to hurt you even more. Whenever any heated argument happens you can choose to either stay calm and filter out the negatives or try to flight from that situation.
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jubilantClam7
Yes mam im trying to avoid escalating any argumets and confrontation. im trying my best hopefully another 3 years until I graduate and after I get a job, I move house and I can live the way I want to. That dream of free life is the only thing keeping me going now. Thanks for ur kind words I appreciate it a lot
Zoya Ahmad
Thats great! Please stay motivated because you matter. What are you studying?
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jubilantClam7
im doing my masters in library science
Zoya Ahmad
That’s great! Why do you thinks your parents are always discouraging you? they always been like this?
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