idk when. he give me his pants and shirts for washing and he like if you done tell me
David6124
Oh. He was saving for the trip or something that dress?
sandy22
no it's isn't about trip
excitedTomatoe7
Don't make it a habit of spoon feeding your husband. He should be responsible enough to care for himself. Understand the meaning of marriage. He is not a kid. You're not a house keeper to wash his clothes and tell him when you're done. Your self respect is within your own hands but sadly some women choose to be in control of their husbands for lifetime. Don't feel bad about anything
David6124
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Oh I forgot to ask you yesterday tomatoe, how's ur fever now
David6124
Then? @sandy
sandy22
he's nature is very dominant and he always wanted that whatever he say it to be done that time if I forget he got angry
excitedTomatoe7
@david- Turned out to be a viral fever. I recovered two days after that, thanks for checking in on me :)
sandy22
I'm fine now ๐
David6124
Np. And the gift?
sandy22
tomorrow he'll going to his trip so he looking for his shirts and pants which is not clean that much so he said that I already give you to for washing why it's not clean and he get irritated and then angry on me so much
excitedTomatoe7
@sandy- You need to be assertive. Take a stand for yourself. Some men think marriage guarentees them a cook, house keeper, someone to do laundry, etc. This mindset needs to change. Household responsiblities are no longer gender specific and he should equally contribute in household chores. If you want to be dormant and obedient then it is upto you but it's high time you take a stand for yourself and assert your rights of equality. Times have changed. Wake up
excitedTomatoe7
@david- Haven't given it yet. We haven't spoken
David6124
Oh that's why I asked if the clothes were for the trip earlier.
David6124
@Tom You decided something about him n u?
sandy22
yess the clothes are for thr trip
sandy22
actually I'm very disturbed so I didn't read properly your message
David6124
I guess that's why he's pissed off ๐
sandy22
yeaahh
excitedTomatoe7
@david- He did text me on telegram asking why I texted him the previous night but I was too pissed off. Don't wanna give the gift in such a mood where things aren't fine.
David6124
Hey Tom would u be free tomorrow? I need your help to talk to girl here. It would be better if a girl is present.
excitedTomatoe7
Yeah sure!!
excitedTomatoe7
You can count on me
David6124
Hmm. He still angry at u sandy?
sandy22
yess
sandy22
i don't know how to convenience him
excitedTomatoe7
Do you think your job is to wash his clothes? Are you his wife or a house keeper? I'm not saying doing it is wrong, but he cannot command you and get angry for forgetting. You gotta be assertive. Take a stand
excitedTomatoe7
He is a much older guy.. and he is married.. She shouldn't be with him.. he obviously doesn't want to continue any further
excitedTomatoe7
Of course it's made up.. She seems naive and too much in love to make sense. You gotta be straightforward with her or else she is gonna fall harder into the pit. He only fooled her and she fell for him. Now he has clearly abandoned her and she cannot move on but she has no other choice. She needs to see him for the horrible man he is. He cheated on his wife.. who is she? Why is he gonna care about her feelings? Tell her all this patiently
David6124
Hey sandy. Just normally tell him that you forgot among the other works, when he's cooled off.
excitedTomatoe7
Teenagers can be overwhelmed a tad bit more than us. Clearly the guy is buffing. Seems like he is done with her
excitedTomatoe7
@sandy- Answer one question. Are you his wife or a housekeeper?
David6124
Haan. And as a guy there's a limit I can talk or ask too.
sandy22
i like to do his stuff and it's not about the housekeeper thing but yah he should understand if I mistaken
David6124
Hmm I know. Just tell him that you forgot later and make up with him.
sandy22
he accusing me infront of his mother yar i feel very bad
David6124
Leave its okay. He's frustrated right now. People won't think much when they're angry
sandy22
idk when he realise that i love him so much that's why behave like this
David6124
Hmm. He's telling you have changed after marriage?
sandy22
yesss
sandy22
that I'm controlling him
David6124
Hmm. I guess he misunderstood ur intentions
sandy22
yeahhhh now I'm tried being understoodable
David6124
Tired or tried?
sandy22
tired ๐ ๐
sandy22
hmmm it's really hurting ๐ฅบ may be she said cause she just frustrated don't worry i think she didn't mean like that...?? okkk all will be fine
sandy22
sometimes it's important to tell them what you have done for them
sandy22
ohhh. then
sandy22
no he's not home
David6124
he went out for something?
sandy22
yeahh with his friends it his daily routine after meal he go with friends
David6124
to drink?
sandy22
no just hang out
sandy22
he drinks but weekly
David6124
oh okay
David6124
just cuddle him/spoon when he's back
David6124
Whichever u want
David6124
till he's gone in mrng
sandy22
I'm afraid of his ignorance
David6124
Ha he's kinda taking u for granted
David6124
But don't you remember the promise we made?
sandy22
uhhhh i remember but what i do with my emotions with my heart
David6124
Hmm
David6124
I can't blame u, it hasnt been easy for me to keep that promise too
sandy22
love is very diffcult
David6124
or maybe we're just difficult
David6124
people
sandy22
yeahh may be
sandy22
i wanted to eat chocolate i told you remember he still not bought ๐
David6124
Hmm. He forgot?
sandy22
heyyyy he changed his insta password why...???
David6124
You got logged out in ur ph?
David6124
He still talks with her?
sandy22
no i asked him he said his account logged someone so that's why changed it
sandy22
now see 2 days how i become a mental
sandy22
feeling lonely ๐
David6124
Hmm
David6124
Me too. She'd out with her colleagues
sandy22
ohhhh then we are in same situation
David6124
ha. I miss her a lot.
David6124
can't call when she's with them. n she won't see msgs.
sandy22
i miss him tooo I call him but he sounds bsy and also getting irritate a bit
David6124
ha happens.
sandy22
i don't know how handle ourselves in this condition
sandy22
why we can't be like them
David6124
umm. I can't be like her. I'm an extreme introvert. Can't go clubs n all like that. Nor do I drink. So she'd be bored only with me.
sandy22
what you don't drinks
sandy22
.....??????
David6124
No. I don't drink or smoke. Why?
sandy22
cause I thought all boys must drinking
sandy22
my husband also drinks and smoke and he think I should drink sometimes and smoke also I tried 2 time smoking
sandy22
means it's not mean that I should do regularly but he wanna drink with me in the club but you know I don't like the taste
David6124
Nothing like that. It's true that most drinks. But I've met 2 more people here that doesn't drink or smoke. I haven't met anyone like that in my BTech or Mtech so I was always left out, since the girls also used to drink with them.
David6124
Our class had like 5 guys n 25 girls. N I was the only one who didn't drink.
David6124
Oh. I haven't been to any clubs or pubs.
sandy22
neither me
David6124
Ha. It caused a lot of problems for me in my hostel too. Since every weekend there would be party and on bdays of those people too. Our hostel doesn't have any warden or security. It's full on guys hostel. So everything goes. (Except bringing in girls). So they'd just put on music n party till 3 or 4.
sandy22
hmmmmm
David6124
I've been trying to watch film or something but not getting feel. changed 3 films so far. Left in 5-10 min. My mind is in so much unrest feel
sandy22
true
sandy22
you know what if I'm busy or having fun still I miss him and at least one time I call him to just hear his voice to feel him
David6124
mm. you know, I usually wait for her to reach room n call me before I sleep. so few days back she reached back by 3 only. so I waited till then. I was tired and slept till 9:30. usually I'll wake up at 9 n get ready by 9:30, have bf n go lab. so she called around 9:30 as she was leaving for mess, she was sounding sad and irritated about work n health thing. so I didn't go for shower n all since i won't be able to talk properly n water sound n all might get her angry. so I waited. talked with her. n it was 9:55. 5 min left. So I decided to go washroom atleast. took my wired headphones n went. thing is mouth piece of my headphones were lil bit away from mouth so i have to keep it close to mouth while speaking. it took me around 15 min to do something that should be done in 5 min so that conv won't be disturbed. it was almost 10:15, I was late for work. still I tght I'd stay till she reaches her lab even if I get late. so while washing my hands I had to let go of mouth piece. so my sound was coming from far for her. then she got angry n asked why it's coming from far. I said I'm wearing headphones. she asked which one. I told wired. then she asked why ure not using wireless, just cut the f***ing call I don't want to talk to u. she started shouting like that so I cut. that day I went my lab at 11:00. I missed my breakfast and lunch to make up for the work I missed in mrng. the reason I didn't want to take wireless was that I didn't want it to fall in washroom but to whom I'll tell this all. she didn't msg or call. later in evng I msgd sorry for that. she called later in night. didn't even say sorry. mm ha. dk.
sandy22
we are so into them that's why they getting granted for us
David6124
mm. my mood is not that good. I'll talk later. feeling a lot depressed.
sandy22
don't be depressed
sandy22
all will be fine sorry I also making you depressed
David6124
it's not u. I just got a msg from my old colleague. He's going out for his PhD. n here I'm stuck. been dreaming of going out n traveling for ages. but it's still just a pipe dream for me. I don't even get time to do anything productive everyday either. I'll be working only in lab. I want to travel, go places. there's a park nearby me. like 5 min walk. that also I don't have time to go.
David6124
I stopped insta n all coz it just used to get me so depressed. when the ones who back stabbed me in my college is living out their life, I'm just lying in a mold old room.
sandy22
can I suggest you something
David6124
mm
sandy22
i read venkatesh stotra for I want to marry my husband and look we'd married now so you read it daily just 10 min and see your all problems will solve
David6124
what is that?
sandy22
it's stotra
sandy22
you can you tube
sandy22
search venkatesh stotra
sandy22
i can't share you here
David6124
mm
David6124
Usually whatever I pray for I don't get.
sandy22
you try this I'm sure all will be fine it's my belief
David6124
Hmm. He came back?
sandy22
no in the late night he'll come
sandy22
i missed him so much i read our old conservation nd i realised that he so loved me so cared of me now he just chnge a little bit i may be because of the tensions
David6124
hmm
David6124
we just ended up fighting again
David6124
whatever I say she takes in wrong way and she just starts shouting at me. n I'm not even feeling well today.
sandy22
take it easy try to talk with her and try to understand
David6124
I tried talking. she's just not ready to listen.
sandy22
then leave her alone for sometime
David6124
mm
David6124
sorry. I fell sick after that day
David6124
I tried that. but it's not working out between us
David6124
she has already given up on our relationship
sandy22
ohhh then do one thing make her realise that you love each other by your old memories
David6124
mm. did he bring you the chocolate?
sandy22
i feel cry
David6124
whym
sandy22
i don't know
sandy22
just want to cry so much
David6124
Where is he?
sandy22
he's out for shoot
David6124
Are u feeling left out?
sandy22
yes
David6124
Mm. Will he be back today or tmrw ?
sandy22
yesterday i didn't reply cause I'd out of station with my classmate for a little trip
David6124
it's okay.
David6124
Did he bring something for u from the trip?
sandy22
tmrw but he's shoot done still not coming today said they all are tired so....staying there
sandy22
no
sandy22
ohhh yeah he bought something for me if you listen you get lol
David6124
Really? He didn't bring anything? ๐คจ
sandy22
he brought a stone from the river
David6124
...
David6124
Umm. Okay. Don't know how to reply for that.๐ถ
David6124
Oh haa. What about the insta password thing?
sandy22
yeahhh he said it's very unique gift๐
sandy22
he said that someone try to login my account I get notification of that so i change it
David6124
Does the rock shine or something? ๐ถ
David6124
It's not a gift he picked up from your garden right? ๐
sandy22
no it's round shaped that's why he feels it unique
David6124
Oh. That's why he changed password. So he gave new one to u?
sandy22
nooo not from garden it's picked from the river where he go with friends
David6124
Hmm. Oh. Those smooth stones from rivers.
sandy22
nooo he said that take my password but I didn't react on that
David6124
Hmm. Fine only. Anyway how's everything these days.?
David6124
I'm finding a lot of stalkers in this app these days. Don't know why the sudden influx of people looking for date, one night stand n all coming here.
sandy22
yesterday when I'd on trip he called two time's and said that he missed me so much come fast and take care yourself so I said to him that wherever you're not home i feel the same way now you get it why I called you so much