he said something?

Sorry I left for gym that time

yeah he's so much angry today

idk when. he give me his pants and shirts for washing and he like if you done tell me

Oh. He was saving for the trip or something that dress?

no it's isn't about trip

Don't make it a habit of spoon feeding your husband. He should be responsible enough to care for himself. Understand the meaning of marriage. He is not a kid. You're not a house keeper to wash his clothes and tell him when you're done. Your self respect is within your own hands but sadly some women choose to be in control of their husbands for lifetime. Don't feel bad about anything

Oh I forgot to ask you yesterday tomatoe, how's ur fever now

Then? @sandy

he's nature is very dominant and he always wanted that whatever he say it to be done that time if I forget he got angry

@david- Turned out to be a viral fever. I recovered two days after that, thanks for checking in on me :)

I'm fine now 🙂

Np. And the gift?

tomorrow he'll going to his trip so he looking for his shirts and pants which is not clean that much so he said that I already give you to for washing why it's not clean and he get irritated and then angry on me so much

@sandy- You need to be assertive. Take a stand for yourself. Some men think marriage guarentees them a cook, house keeper, someone to do laundry, etc. This mindset needs to change. Household responsiblities are no longer gender specific and he should equally contribute in household chores. If you want to be dormant and obedient then it is upto you but it's high time you take a stand for yourself and assert your rights of equality. Times have changed. Wake up

@david- Haven't given it yet. We haven't spoken

Oh that's why I asked if the clothes were for the trip earlier.

@Tom You decided something about him n u?

yess the clothes are for thr trip

actually I'm very disturbed so I didn't read properly your message

I guess that's why he's pissed off 😅

yeaahh

@david- He did text me on telegram asking why I texted him the previous night but I was too pissed off. Don't wanna give the gift in such a mood where things aren't fine.

Hey Tom would u be free tomorrow? I need your help to talk to girl here. It would be better if a girl is present.

Yeah sure!!

You can count on me

Hmm. He still angry at u sandy?

yess

i don't know how to convenience him

Do you think your job is to wash his clothes? Are you his wife or a house keeper? I'm not saying doing it is wrong, but he cannot command you and get angry for forgetting. You gotta be assertive. Take a stand

He is a much older guy.. and he is married.. She shouldn't be with him.. he obviously doesn't want to continue any further

Of course it's made up.. She seems naive and too much in love to make sense. You gotta be straightforward with her or else she is gonna fall harder into the pit. He only fooled her and she fell for him. Now he has clearly abandoned her and she cannot move on but she has no other choice. She needs to see him for the horrible man he is. He cheated on his wife.. who is she? Why is he gonna care about her feelings? Tell her all this patiently

Hey sandy. Just normally tell him that you forgot among the other works, when he's cooled off.

Teenagers can be overwhelmed a tad bit more than us. Clearly the guy is buffing. Seems like he is done with her

@sandy- Answer one question. Are you his wife or a housekeeper?

Haan. And as a guy there's a limit I can talk or ask too.

i like to do his stuff and it's not about the housekeeper thing but yah he should understand if I mistaken

Hmm I know. Just tell him that you forgot later and make up with him.

he accusing me infront of his mother yar i feel very bad

Leave its okay. He's frustrated right now. People won't think much when they're angry

idk when he realise that i love him so much that's why behave like this

Hmm. He's telling you have changed after marriage?

yesss

that I'm controlling him

Hmm. I guess he misunderstood ur intentions

yeahhhh now I'm tried being understoodable

Tired or tried?

tired 😅😅

hmmm it's really hurting 🥺 may be she said cause she just frustrated don't worry i think she didn't mean like that...?? okkk all will be fine

sometimes it's important to tell them what you have done for them

ohhh. then

no he's not home

he went out for something?

yeahh with his friends it his daily routine after meal he go with friends

to drink?

no just hang out

he drinks but weekly

oh okay

just cuddle him/spoon when he's back

Whichever u want

till he's gone in mrng

I'm afraid of his ignorance

Ha he's kinda taking u for granted

But don't you remember the promise we made?

uhhhh i remember but what i do with my emotions with my heart

Hmm

I can't blame u, it hasnt been easy for me to keep that promise too

love is very diffcult

or maybe we're just difficult

people

yeahh may be

i wanted to eat chocolate i told you remember he still not bought 😒

Hmm. He forgot?

heyyyy he changed his insta password why...???

You got logged out in ur ph?

He still talks with her?

no i asked him he said his account logged someone so that's why changed it

now see 2 days how i become a mental

feeling lonely 😐

Hmm

Me too. She'd out with her colleagues

ohhhh then we are in same situation

ha. I miss her a lot.

can't call when she's with them. n she won't see msgs.

i miss him tooo I call him but he sounds bsy and also getting irritate a bit

ha happens.

i don't know how handle ourselves in this condition

why we can't be like them

umm. I can't be like her. I'm an extreme introvert. Can't go clubs n all like that. Nor do I drink. So she'd be bored only with me.

what you don't drinks

.....??????

No. I don't drink or smoke. Why?

cause I thought all boys must drinking

my husband also drinks and smoke and he think I should drink sometimes and smoke also I tried 2 time smoking

means it's not mean that I should do regularly but he wanna drink with me in the club but you know I don't like the taste

Nothing like that. It's true that most drinks. But I've met 2 more people here that doesn't drink or smoke. I haven't met anyone like that in my BTech or Mtech so I was always left out, since the girls also used to drink with them.

Our class had like 5 guys n 25 girls. N I was the only one who didn't drink.

Oh. I haven't been to any clubs or pubs.

neither me

Ha. It caused a lot of problems for me in my hostel too. Since every weekend there would be party and on bdays of those people too. Our hostel doesn't have any warden or security. It's full on guys hostel. So everything goes. (Except bringing in girls). So they'd just put on music n party till 3 or 4.

hmmmmm

I've been trying to watch film or something but not getting feel. changed 3 films so far. Left in 5-10 min. My mind is in so much unrest feel

true

you know what if I'm busy or having fun still I miss him and at least one time I call him to just hear his voice to feel him

mm. you know, I usually wait for her to reach room n call me before I sleep. so few days back she reached back by 3 only. so I waited till then. I was tired and slept till 9:30. usually I'll wake up at 9 n get ready by 9:30, have bf n go lab. so she called around 9:30 as she was leaving for mess, she was sounding sad and irritated about work n health thing. so I didn't go for shower n all since i won't be able to talk properly n water sound n all might get her angry. so I waited. talked with her. n it was 9:55. 5 min left. So I decided to go washroom atleast. took my wired headphones n went. thing is mouth piece of my headphones were lil bit away from mouth so i have to keep it close to mouth while speaking. it took me around 15 min to do something that should be done in 5 min so that conv won't be disturbed. it was almost 10:15, I was late for work. still I tght I'd stay till she reaches her lab even if I get late. so while washing my hands I had to let go of mouth piece. so my sound was coming from far for her. then she got angry n asked why it's coming from far. I said I'm wearing headphones. she asked which one. I told wired. then she asked why ure not using wireless, just cut the f***ing call I don't want to talk to u. she started shouting like that so I cut. that day I went my lab at 11:00. I missed my breakfast and lunch to make up for the work I missed in mrng. the reason I didn't want to take wireless was that I didn't want it to fall in washroom but to whom I'll tell this all. she didn't msg or call. later in evng I msgd sorry for that. she called later in night. didn't even say sorry. mm ha. dk.

we are so into them that's why they getting granted for us

mm. my mood is not that good. I'll talk later. feeling a lot depressed.

don't be depressed

all will be fine sorry I also making you depressed

it's not u. I just got a msg from my old colleague. He's going out for his PhD. n here I'm stuck. been dreaming of going out n traveling for ages. but it's still just a pipe dream for me. I don't even get time to do anything productive everyday either. I'll be working only in lab. I want to travel, go places. there's a park nearby me. like 5 min walk. that also I don't have time to go.

I stopped insta n all coz it just used to get me so depressed. when the ones who back stabbed me in my college is living out their life, I'm just lying in a mold old room.

can I suggest you something

mm

i read venkatesh stotra for I want to marry my husband and look we'd married now so you read it daily just 10 min and see your all problems will solve

what is that?

it's stotra

you can you tube

search venkatesh stotra

i can't share you here

mm

Usually whatever I pray for I don't get.

you try this I'm sure all will be fine it's my belief

Hmm. He came back?

no in the late night he'll come

i missed him so much i read our old conservation nd i realised that he so loved me so cared of me now he just chnge a little bit i may be because of the tensions

hmm

we just ended up fighting again

whatever I say she takes in wrong way and she just starts shouting at me. n I'm not even feeling well today.

take it easy try to talk with her and try to understand

I tried talking. she's just not ready to listen.

then leave her alone for sometime

mm

sorry. I fell sick after that day

I tried that. but it's not working out between us

she has already given up on our relationship

ohhh then do one thing make her realise that you love each other by your old memories

mm. did he bring you the chocolate?

i feel cry

whym

i don't know

just want to cry so much

Where is he?

he's out for shoot

Are u feeling left out?

yes

Mm. Will he be back today or tmrw ?

yesterday i didn't reply cause I'd out of station with my classmate for a little trip

it's okay.

Did he bring something for u from the trip?

tmrw but he's shoot done still not coming today said they all are tired so....staying there

no

ohhh yeah he bought something for me if you listen you get lol

Really? He didn't bring anything? 🤨

he brought a stone from the river

...

Umm. Okay. Don't know how to reply for that.😶

Oh haa. What about the insta password thing?

yeahhh he said it's very unique gift😅

he said that someone try to login my account I get notification of that so i change it

Does the rock shine or something? 😶

It's not a gift he picked up from your garden right? 😅

no it's round shaped that's why he feels it unique

Oh. That's why he changed password. So he gave new one to u?

nooo not from garden it's picked from the river where he go with friends

Hmm. Oh. Those smooth stones from rivers.

nooo he said that take my password but I didn't react on that

Hmm. Fine only. Anyway how's everything these days.?

I'm finding a lot of stalkers in this app these days. Don't know why the sudden influx of people looking for date, one night stand n all coming here.

yesterday when I'd on trip he called two time's and said that he missed me so much come fast and take care yourself so I said to him that wherever you're not home i feel the same way now you get it why I called you so much

stalkes.....??? what happened

Stalkers

Oh. Did he change after yesterday?

yes little bit but now i feel that he's not changed cause he's coming today yar he's shoot done still not coming I'm getting frustrated now

Maybe he's tired

I'm his wife dude I've also some expectations from him I also some needs

Well how was he with you when u came back yesterday?

what tried..... he just wanna hang out with friends......😒😒😒

no he's not home yesterday when I came he already left for the shoot

Ha. He sure loves his friends company a lot

Oh. So u guys didn't meet yesterday

nope

Ah. Sed lyf

yeah he loves alot he said I'll feel relaxed when I'm with them

when ure with them?

yehh

no he said that when he's with his friends he feel relaxed

when a girl marry a man she changed her life she changed herself for her husband and men's......huh they don't wanna change their self if a girl try to change her husband then husband feel like her wife taking their freedom and when a man changes her wife they think it's her duty to change her self wow what a fair

Hmm. If one is compromising, other should too. if one is not ready to change, he should not expect the other to change too.

exactly

idk how far I'll be strong on this relationship...???

when I'm done I'll be no more i Don't want to live without him

Calm down. You'll be fine. He loves you in his own way. It's just that right now he is taking you for granted since you guys are married and he knows you will be always there.

but David I'm afraid if I'm not there... then.....???

if my anger, my these kind of feeling wins.....then....????

There's nothing we can do about it. He has to realize your worth on his own. Telling him won't do much good.

Sure if you talk he might listen for few days but after that?