actually hw do i tell this my father is fighting with my mother in his room ...my hands are trembling and i don't know what to do?he is drunk. have i committed something against god ? why should my mother suffer so much? why can't i have a normal life? its been years now. it goes for 2 days or 3 but the trauma stays forever

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pandey · Answer

no..you have not done anything wrong...but in normal situation...u can talk with your father

zestyPie9 · Answer

no i can't it is been going on for years and i hate to say this but my father physically abuses my mother and if he is too much out of control then us sometimes.  i feel so guilty because my mother has us she cannot even leave my father

ashamedOryx0 · Answer

u should probably ask ur mom to be strong and prepare for a divorceee cuzz y'all don't desserve thiss

zestyPie9 · Answer

i have told it to her a thousand times but she is afraid as she has become weak with time as she has health problems and is afraid that she won't be able to look after us

zestyPie9 · Answer

so we are the ones holding her back and for that i feel so sorry

ashamedOryx0 · Answer

she needs to stay strong and be financially independent or maybe live with your grandparents for a while while your mom prepare herself for a good job and maybe take a small apartment enough for y'all 🤠🤠 your mom should stay strong and if y'all have difficulty you should move out to your grandparents plzz leave your abusive parents

zestyPie9 · Answer

my mother has suffered so many days because of us i can never leave her ...my mother has no one except her sisiter and my grandparents are too afraid of my father. they will rather blame my mother than do something

ashamedOryx0 · Answer

no you are not the onereee holding her back no offense to your mom but she isn't confident to look after y'all alone so yeah itz definitely not your fault and it shouldn't affect you !!! you are doing great love 🤎🤎

zestyPie9 · Answer

sometimes i feel if i end my life will all of this end too. perhaps my father will realize his mistakes then

ashamedOryx0 · Answer

nooooooo you shouldn't end your lifeeee your mom didn't go through all this just for her to see you to die with you many pple hopes die ur dreams die a human become a human only when they face the challenges in life and go through the hurdles itz never baout being confident and stuff itz about hanging inthere and getting through it some how so you have to promise me that YOU EILL NEVER THINK OF DYING !!

zestyPie9 · Answer

i can't... i feel all this pain will stop once and for all..what is life anyway. fearing everyday if my father creates is once again sad ablut something and will once again use violence and make us his victims... from childhood i have been waiting if this will ever come to an end

zestyPie9 · Answer

it has been years now. if i remember all those days i still have anxiety attacks ...as i try to forget one wound which never really goes and other one comes... there is no end to this

Frustrating

help me please

how do I change for the better?