family pressure for marriage

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Hi i am a 30yr old women with no job unmarried and high aspirations. My family wanted me to marry off so I introduced my bf to them but they created a scene out it and said that I betrayed them by loving someone from other caste. Its been 8 months now there is a scene everyday and my parents have said that choose one either him or us. I am not able to understand anything now my mind has given up can u plz help me

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Zoya Ahmad
Hey! Thanks for reaching out. I am sure you must be applying for jobs, you will get it soon. Regarding your relationship, have you tried explaining to your parents that marriage is a lifetime commitment, and loving someone isn’t betraying your parents. They should consider knowing your bf first. Tell them assertively and politely that you can decide with whom you want to spend the rest of your life. Their opinion does matter, that’s why they should also try to know the guy with open mind and then form their opinion about him.
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Mimi
Having no job and being unmarried is no failure!!.. Please give yourself some credit!! For allll the helping you do for your parents and the never ending list🙂 There are so many people on this earth who earn soooo filthy yet unhappy...Why?? Mental peace!! Hence, I would suggest.. your nature is your true self!! Raha sawal bf and marriage ka.. that too someone from outside your caste/creed... Chillax!! Because... When you cut, it’s the same blood(in red).. 🙃..
Beautifulmind
Hi
Beautifulmind
Having my parents tell me they would die if i choose him everyday is now becoming a reality in my mind . M afraid very very scared what if it comes out to be true
Zoya Ahmad
It won’t come out to be true. Try to explain to your parents why he is the right match for you.
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