fear of being judged

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I am an introvert, I have always suffered with low self esteem issues. Due to these issues, I have trouble socializing with people and participating in any activity that requires public speaking. In recent times I decided to get over these issues and also take my career a bit seriously so I joined an IELTS class where speaking is compulsory. But every time I think about my future it cares me. I'm full of self doubt. Because of these self doubts issues I end up procrastinating for hours and hours together which leads to not completing a task on time. About two weeks ago I broke up with my boyfriend. And I haven't been able to process my grief properly. I'm still in touch with him. It feels like I'm constantly arguing with him in my mind.. the argument is more like defending or justifying everything that I said or I did. It's like a never ending unrealistic conversation. This conversation goes through my head 24*7. I can't concentrate on my work.

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Ria Gidwani

We appreciate your courage to reach out to us. It is natural to feel this overwhelmed. Here are some tips which would help you deal with the feelings of self doubt and manage your emotions: Be compassionate to yourself and acknowledge your feelings. Practice mindfulness. Try journaling. Devlop new hobbies. Recognise your strengths Be around supportive people Try to speak in front of the mirror to boost your confidence. Seek professional counseling Therapy can help us feel understood and give us tools to alleviate feelings of doubt. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a popular form of therapy that can help specifically with self-doubt. With CBT, we can learn methods to challenge problematic ways of thinking that may lead to an improved mood and overall well being.

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Thank you for the response. I wish to start professional face to face counseling but I feel really nervous when I talk about all this. I'm biting my cheek as I type out this message. I've been told by people that I exaggerate a lot, some people have also told me I don't have communication skills. I have a constant fear of being judged while I talk. In my mind I'm constantly wondering if I'm sounding lame to them. Because of all these reasons I don't have a social life. I have only 4 friends and I spend days together locked in my room scrolling through instagram.

The fear of feeling judged in the therapy is normal. The first condition of counseling is confidentiality and non judgment. The therapist will first make sure that you become comfortable with him/her. Therapy will also help you to overcome this fear of judgement. The therapist will also make sure that you don't feel guilty about the way you feel. We appreciate your courage to reach out. You have already taken a brave first step to change.

Hello Ma'am, I'm back with another conflict. I have finally convinced myself to speak about my issues with a professional. Now the problem is that I don't know how to open up to my parents and tell them that I need help. I don't want to tell my parents about the issues that I'm facing but at the same time I need to convince them (as they're the one's going to pay for it). I am a Psych student myself so they expect me to overcome these things by myself (as if it was possible -_-). How do I explain it to them that it doesn't work that way and that I actually need help. Every time I tell my mom something like that she thinks I'm joking or just ranting out of fun. Most of the times I feel unheard in my own house. What do I say to make her feel I'm serious about it?

Hey glad to know you are into psychology, you can definitely reach out to your professors and seek for help or explore free self help material. Your professors can also help you to psycho-educate your parents about the importance of therapy for a psychology student 😊

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