Hi, i don't want to get emotionally attached to her anymore.I know that she will never love me back I'll be just a good friend for her.. But I really love her, sometimes I feel i don't love her but later i just keep thinking about her. She is my bestfriend and she knows about all this and at first I told her that i loved her but now I lied to her that I don't but deep down I still do. On my birthday she wished me and told me that I am one the most important person in her life. I don't know what to do... I always want to talk to her, text her. She will never text me first but talks with me and she replies to me late. I just want her to be my friend I don't want this love anymore, I don't want to feel this love for her but the question is how?

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zestyhawk40 · Answer

i want to move on but idk how

pkok · Answer

why dont u express ur liking for her and make it clear, if she is able to consider u??

zestyhawk40 · Answer

i did...two times...she told me she sees me like a friend and doesn't want to break our friendship

zestyhawk40 · Answer

both the time she told the same thing..... so i lied to her afterwards that i don't have any feelings for her

pkok · Answer

it would be better to keep distance, this could be obsession, u need to concentrate on your own goals, activities which u will get involved in, new friends, help others, etc

zestyhawk40 · Answer

how do I keep distance....like i have tried not texting her but at the end of the day I feel like talking to her

zestyhawk40 · Answer

we are really good friends for like 5 years what if our friendship breaks?

pkok · Answer

yes if u supress it u feel to talk and think more?? do u think about her most of the day?

zestyhawk40 · Answer

yess almost everytime

zestyhawk40 · Answer

i am confused....I really love her

pkok · Answer

i would not say that this is love, this is obsession. u think what u want should happen, and then u think of ways connecting her, may be see her photos, desperately wait for her msgs, and here u waiy impatiently

pkok · Answer

??

zestyhawk40 · Answer

yes u are correct....i do this

pkok · Answer

hmm... its like she is ruling your mind, and ur mind doesnt work normally, ur concentration is disturbed, and then u get distressed

zestyhawk40 · Answer

yess....uk i can't even break our friendship....we are friends for like 5 years....i have shared so many secrets with her....she too have told me many things.....i feel safe around her....i feel safe talking to her.....i felt this safe around anyone else

pkok · Answer

yes, but now u have got too much involved. u cant keep friendship, from ur side, so that u dont get emotionally hurt. get ways to be distant from her, without hurting her, and i have already told u to concentrate on ur new goals.

zestyhawk40 · Answer

so u r saying that i should distant myself from her?

zestyhawk40 · Answer

and never talk to her??

pkok · Answer

yes u need to distance yourself, and shift your focus on other dimensions, this wil reduce ur obsession, ur mind will stablise, and u would be in a good place to make decisions. u can reduce ur media contact too, whatsapp etc, try this, if its not possible, then msg me afterwards

zestyhawk40 · Answer

uk once i didn't messaged her for like a month....but after that nothing changed

pkok · Answer

concentrate on ur work, be productive in whatever ur doing, it may take time, but will help u

zestyhawk40 · Answer

I'll distant myself from her but i don't have anyone else to talk to...i feel lonely

pkok · Answer

yes i need to increase ur friends circle or else u will be fixated on her, and thats not good for u, as from other side there is no emotional involvement, this u have to accept. its also that u may finding ways to connect with her saying that u dont have any one to talk to.. its only a bias.

zestyhawk40 · Answer

ok

zestyhawk40 · Answer

I'll not text her from today onwards

zestyhawk40 · Answer

thank you

pkok · Answer

, may it help u, and go forward in life👍

zestyhawk40 · Answer

are u a boy or girl? if u don't mind me asking

pkok · Answer

boy.

zestyhawk40 · Answer

oh okay

zestyhawk40 · Answer

nice to meet you

pkok · Answer

nice to meet u too...

zestyhawk40 · Answer

😊🤝

tautflamingo2 · Answer

I know exactly how you feel and I hope you have more luck than I have

zestyhawk40 · Answer

what happened with u?@tauntflamingo2?