feeling depressed because of being undervalued at home

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Depression

I am so angry everyday because I am not being treated right. I am the only earning person in the family..i have been supporting my mom and brother since 5 years. And the way they treat me...of course they love me.But my mom is very dominating she wants everything according to her.i don't have a say in anything. There are things that I understand and want to suggest or put my opinions..and whenever I try to do she lashes out at me.she wants me to just work and stay silent? well this is how I am ' working from home'.working Tirelessly and with lips sealed .they don't even bother if I am hungry.well I prepare meals too.i am a girl,so I am expected to do office work as well as home chores.lol. while my younger brother enjoys playing games on mobile as his online classes are not yet started.how can I survive here where my mom is such patriarchal.

warrior

5 Answers
Zoya Ahmad
Hey! Thanks for eeaching out. I am sure you must be feeling really sad about this. We all want to be appreciated and need due acknowledgment we do for our family. We expect our mom to be understanding and compassionate towards us. I am sorry you have to go through this. You are really courageous that you devote yourself selflessly. Have you tried talking about this with your mom that how does it makes you feel. What are your expectations. And you also want your brother to contribute in household chores. You feel tired and exhausted doing all of it alone.
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whenever I try to talk, mom denies that she is treating me wrong. And if I insist on it with my frustration, she says it's me who is so angry always.she doesn't realise what she is doing to me.how do I handle this
notavailableanymore
i have the same situation at my house .... my mom thinks she treats me and my lil sis equally but in fact i always get a feeling she do not . im 20 and she expects me to fi d a job and earn for my family now ... id like to say that u try but jobs are quite not available right now in this situation. just because my mom connects with my sister and nit with me because my nature is bit different , i just see that thing straight and hurts me to live with everyday . juat feel like leaving this place and go live on ny own .i understand if u think that teenagers think this way in their phase but trust me i trued my best to get up from here but have always failed to put this situation away.id like my mom supporting and loving me atleast as much i deserve from a mother
notavailableanymore
and exactly whenever i try to speak to my mom about this my mom says its all in my head . im always angry and unstable and should not question a mothers morals
warrior
acceptance,gratitude, and spreading love and staying calm may help. I am trying this. It may be unpleasant.but she's mom after all.

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