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Iam a 29 yrs old married women and it's been a year since iam married.My father in law always mocks about my size and I don't feel good about it.I have told several times about this to my husband and he doesn't react much about it. Iam not sure how to handle this situation.

bearwiththickhead · Answer

that's insane, what does he say

brokensoul24 · Answer

@bearwiththickhead: like your fat, you are fatter than me, or sometimes in front of others

Juliancare · Answer

comment on him too and make him feel what's it is like

brokensoul24 · Answer

he is elder to me i can't do that

bearwiththickhead · Answer

that's gen x thing, don't worry about it, gen x is not educated about horrors of fat shaming. Assume he is being extra and dont try to elevate it higher than it is

brokensoul24 · Answer

well indirectly mocking is different and especially in front of others and np respect at all

Juliancare · Answer

can't you have a chat with him instead of your husband?

brokensoul24 · Answer

what can I tell him? do you think he would understand

brokensoul24 · Answer

it would ruin the peace at home

bearwiththickhead · Answer

do not try to do that, otherwise you will be in a heated place. can't you move on, people fat shame each other all the time

Juliancare · Answer

he is older he should understand. it's something that's affecting you and you can't keen going. cause it ruin your life and affect your mood with other people

bearwiththickhead · Answer

you can comfort other people in your family who are fat shamed

bearwiththickhead · Answer

if he does that in front of guests, there is 90% chance he is the superior male. you can't say what you are feeling without insulting him, you decide if you want to confront a man who is superior in family or you want to move away and try to downplay this whole situation

brokensoul24 · Answer

@bearwiththickhead: you are talking about the result , iam talking that it should never happen

bearwiththickhead · Answer

but it happened already, and you want to be a voice of morality but in actuality you need to be a voice of change

brokensoul24 · Answer

i don't know

bearwiththickhead · Answer

there is your solution

brokensoul24 · Answer

well next time iam gonna confront him

brokensoul24 · Answer

the solution is to confront, he should know what is right and what is wrong

brokensoul24 · Answer

else this will never end and one day iam gonna burst

brokensoul24 · Answer

instead of bursting in the worst situation

bearwiththickhead · Answer

so you have never dealt with a bully before?

brokensoul24 · Answer

yes I have but iam in a house with a family that is different, don't u think this thinking should change??

bearwiththickhead · Answer

you need to understand if there is a person bullying you, the place of bullying is of little importance, what's important is you are being bullied

bearwiththickhead · Answer

how have you dealt with bullies before

brokensoul24 · Answer

see it's just that if it was any random guy or a friend i would usually ignore

sparklesam9 · Answer

u tel to ur husband to ask him and convey about ur feeling, its his responsibility.. unfortunately if ur husband dont care about that you should convey n talk to ur father in law and warn him n protect ur own selfrespect.. and tel to ur husband that with respect u asked him to convey to his father he didnot respond now the problem is inbetween you and ur father inlaw, ur husband has no right to involve ,convey that u will handle him.. when it comes to your mental peace n self respect set boundaries and handle them with right answers..

brokensoul24 · Answer

have already told him

Frustrating

help me please

how do I change for the better?