Hey Diane, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. And I appreciate the fact that you are strong to go through this. Life is never the same. It will change. If we keep doing same things we get same results so try to talk to them. For me its not clear why they are like that to you. If you can explain further

Well, i tried to talk with no result... when we were in school i hd very good results without studying much and my brother was the opposite case... so they always compared us and told him that he should be like me ... but he couldn’t give better results and i understand him hating me at that stage. But this hatred never ended and for my parents he is the “man” and i should accept the fct that he controls my life (all of it) so he drinks a lot and twice now he asked me to leave the house and later he wakes up and swears he never did this! I tried to talk to my parents but for them he is right in whatever he says...

Ok first of all I think you should sort out with your brother. Get him in your confidence, you might have tried earlier but keep trying sometimes speaking your heart out will someday make him realize. Alot of family gives the male icon priority even today and thats not going to change overnight. It will take alot of broadminded people to change this. But as far as i understand your brother rules the house and that should be your first step to sort out and it will take time. Once he is on your side I am sure other family members will come along. Try and lets see how it goes

Diane, could you give some context? How old are you? How old is your brother? Do you all live together? Are you working? Or are you a student? What about your brother?