how to respond when you are really not into someone

Question

I share everything with one of my male friend. We stay in different cities and talk over call. After some time, he told me that he likes me. I dont feel the same for him. He is good human but I was never attracted to him. Moreover, I am 3 years elder to him, and I am searching a guy for marriage. I told him that I respect your feeling but its not mutual. And I dont want to lose a friend, still its upto you to talk or not. He chose to be friends. Now every time i talk to or meet any guy for marriage, my friend gets upset. So now i hide it from him. Eventually i liked one guy, we started dating to know eachother but i cant call him because my friend keeps check on me and he senses that if my call is on waiting and all. I even tried to tell him once that i like someone. He got hurt and fought with me. Any suggestions to handle this situation?

lazyeland2 · Answer

ma'am what u feel does he loves u?

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

He does. But I dont.

lazyeland2 · Answer

umm okh he's into job or what

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

I never played with him or gave any hints

lazyeland2 · Answer

u have to take hard decision i gues

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

and now i am already dating someone. but scared to tell him

lazyeland2 · Answer

dude but I have to tell

lazyeland2 · Answer

u*

lazyeland2 · Answer

or can give him about ur relationship

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

I know. I have to tell

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

or tell him some other reason which will not hurt him

lazyeland2 · Answer

do u want to keep freind ship with him?

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

yes of course

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

if he wants

lazyeland2 · Answer

dude what he can do ... emotional blackmail to nhi krega?

lazyeland2 · Answer

like I'll do suicide or self harm stuff like that

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

no. he is pretty decent and mature. he won't blackmail. but it will hurt him and he might not talk with me again.

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

no no... no suicide and crying stuff

lazyeland2 · Answer

where are you from

lazyeland2 · Answer

and where he's from

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

I am from Pune. My friend from Mumbai. And guy I'm dating is also from Mumbai

lazyeland2 · Answer

u can go with your fiance for talking to him

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

I didnt get you

lazyeland2 · Answer

ahh leave it bad idea

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

ok

lazyeland2 · Answer

ma'am u have to confront him it's hard but u have to

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

yes i think i will do that

lazyeland2 · Answer

doesn't matter u can tell him politely or maybe rudely

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

very wisely i have to do that

lazyeland2 · Answer

but it has to be done...

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

yes

lazyeland2 · Answer

because if ull not tell him then

lazyeland2 · Answer

he'll felt cheated..for no reason

lazyeland2 · Answer

and then that thing will turn him into something else

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

yes exactly. so i will tell him tomorrow only

lazyeland2 · Answer

good

lazyeland2 · Answer

u want talk more about anything..

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

thanks dude. this was eye-opening for me. thank you

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

no i am good now. you can sleep. good night.

lazyeland2 · Answer

good bye

lazyeland2 · Answer

ahh I can't sleep

lazyeland2 · Answer

u sleep and be happy

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

actually I am already dozing because it's 3am

lazyeland2 · Answer

good for u

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