I am in a Boyfriend Problem

Question

I am in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend abuses me a lot😕🥺 For little things he get very much angry at me and gives me slangs ....... l did told him not to do that but he never listens. I love him a lot for more than 2 years we have been together. What should I do?

rrkk · Answer

for some time be silent.. give cold behaviour if u r not able to leave him.. get to this situation of making him crave for u like hell.. don't give him any love in any form.... and then when he goes mad then tell him that pls stop abusing or i will leave u... sometimes giving an edge is impy

rrkk · Answer

important

offendedpudding7 · Answer

ok thanks I'll try that🥺

rrkk · Answer

just threaten him for some time.... if he really loves you and you r important for him then obviously he will try to change

offendedpudding7 · Answer

His slangs really hurt me a lot. Nobody talks to me or behaves like that with me and when he does something like that it hurts a lot. What if I threaten him and he really goes away 🥺 I'm just scared.... I love him a lot I don't want to lose him.... But sometimes I really feel like what he is doing is wrong but i can't speak it out to him

rrkk · Answer

no he will not go away if he really loves you.. and if he ever did then pls it's for good... take it as positive in your life ...  just talk to him that u r too tired of his slangs ... ask him how is he gonna manage in family and kids... you think for a long-term... is this person worth it... try to calm yourself and think .. you can still find a better person... two yrs over a life time... take right decision

offendedpudding7 · Answer

He has also abused me that If I ever leave him he will make me suffer badly. I'm very scared to do anything at this point I feel stuck. I can't even discuss it with my parents.

rrkk · Answer

whattt.... what type of suffering....

rrkk · Answer

see some people only threaten but if u become strong in front of him then he will go on his knees....      then some are mentally unstable type which makes other person suffer like physically.... so what type is he

rrkk · Answer

are u sure he will never make physical violence with you??

offendedpudding7 · Answer

he might murder me. Idk exactly but the tone he used while speaking such things was real and scary😰 he can do anything, he might can leak our pictures on the social media

offendedpudding7 · Answer

I am scared he might can make physical violence

rrkk · Answer

yaaar .. what to say now... try to love him and change him by your love

offendedpudding7 · Answer

u can understand hindi?

rrkk · Answer

try to find out what makes him angry and happy.. try to keep him happy

rrkk · Answer

no...

offendedpudding7 · Answer

ok

offendedpudding7 · Answer

I have always tried yarr but it I always end up getting hurt

offendedpudding7 · Answer

I have also told him that plzz dont do this it hurts me...... he says that it's your problem u are getting hurt deal with it

rrkk · Answer

i don't know how to help you in this... but u can try maintaining distance silently... like slowly slowly talk him less, answer his phone less.. msg him less.. with time slowly drift away

rrkk · Answer

one thing is sure this is not love it's him owing you.... u r just for his use.... how can you love such a guy

rrkk · Answer

love can never be like this...

offendedpudding7 · Answer

I have done this...... he says that ' Is your love for me getting over you don't love me anymore '

rrkk · Answer

yes say yes.. how can I love you...

offendedpudding7 · Answer

I sometimes feel like that he is using me but sometimes he shows soo much love that I forget his mistakes and the love comes back but then again his behavior changes

farshy756 · Answer

if his love is conditional, then why you're should be unconditional?

i am an immature person so don't judge me i am mental patient

Frustrating

help me please

how do I change for the better?