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I was in a messed up relationship which ended 3 years ago, I loved him a lot amd I still do even though he left me for someone else in the worst way possible and we are still in contact cause we share the same friends and whenever we meet he gets a little bit physical and I don't stop him even though he is with someone else and he had hurt me so much in the past. so my parents are going to be out of time for a while and I can't stop thinking about inviting him over even though it's completely wrong cause he is with someone else and also because he has caused me so much pain and betrayal but I still want to see him and be with him idk what I should do, I have an exam tomorrow and I can't stop thinking about him

lazyeland2 · Answer

heya

lazyeland2 · Answer

do you want to talk, ?

differentworld99 · Answer

nope don't do it feelings don't stay.

differentworld99 · Answer

he is a fuck boy don't do itm

crummyrat5 · Answer

yeah I want to talk

crummyrat5 · Answer

I know he just uses me but I don't understand why I always fall for him like I promise myself that I won't this time and I still do and it's so frustrating.

differentworld99 · Answer

you're having a strong physical attraction towards him may be.

differentworld99 · Answer

but physical attraction doesn't last. Best thing is take a break from him until you loose feelings orelse yeh hota hi rhega.

crummyrat5 · Answer

hey lazyeland2 can you text me I am a new user so I don't know how to text someone here

crummyrat5 · Answer

yeah you are right

crummyrat5 · Answer

I am not just physically attracted to him I love him ever since he broke up with me I haven't been able to date anyone and it's been 3 years

differentworld99 · Answer

you have to move on.. if you keep meeting him your feelings will only increase . And you also know you and him have no future, he is a cheater, know your self worth trust on the progress your mind should be more stronger than your emotions. The best things is blocking him for few days or have a fight with him so that both of you can take a break.

differentworld99 · Answer

this is only a trauma bond.

differentworld99 · Answer

you could have moved on if you left talking with him at the first only but the mistake is you keep a contact with him even though he cheated on you. put some anger into yourself. Ask to yourself!! 'why am I even with a cheater?' know your worth. Your present relfects your future.

crummyrat5 · Answer

@differentworld99 you are completely right I could have moved on but even after our breakup he kept telling me that he wants to be a part of my life and I tried to stop making contacts with him but he kept coming back saying that he loves me and can't be with me because of this other girl and this year we talked after 6-7 months but then also my feelings for him returned. and I think you are right about the trauma bond cause that explains a lot

differentworld99 · Answer

he just wants to use you. you can also say about this to his current girlfriend. he will ruin her life toom

lazyeland2 · Answer

heya @crummyrat5 we can connect somewhere and talk one on one , if u want

Shivaang · Answer

why the girls can't stay away from red flags?

I am too boring person