I ran away from my house

Question

I ran away from my house yesterday because of my personal family problems. I wanted to call my boyfriend but he already had family issues so I didn't involve him in this. I called my another friend who could actually help me with this situation. With money and place. I personally had problem with him because he had crush on me and not only that but he also wanted a physical relationship with me. But I had no other option. I needed place and food for a night. I didn't expect him to really be physical with me but he did it after all. he made me watch horror movie with him. And he knows how scared I am of spirts n all.And then I needed someone to be with me in the room so I asked him but then he started touching me.Requesting him was the biggest mistake.I will regret it for rest of my life.My boyfriend was worried.He texted me the whole night.And I'm damn serious in this relationship.I felt like I cheated on him. I feel horrible.

NannoYuri · Answer

if your friend forced himself on you then it's a crime...no means no. you don't have to worry if you didn't do anything wrong... just tell your bf complete truth and have one to one conversation with your friend

whatabtme · Answer

I can't tell this to anyone because when he came to pick me up yesterday we made a deal

whatabtme · Answer

he said I can stay but I can't tell this to anyone

NannoYuri · Answer

what was the deal? did your friend solve your problem just for being physical with you?

betrayedBittern0 · Answer

really I empathise with your situation. and i personally feel it's not your fault, my friend don't feel guilty about that first of all and you should tell all this things clearly to your boyfriend and I also think he also understand the situation I wish , take your time and make things clear and don't feel guilty. and I think we should clear to ourselves first if you know that it is not your fault then why are you feeling guilty. and there are lots of PPL like your friend who has such bad intentions and trapped PPL when they are in their problems. so you should not feel guilty , I think they should and i believe one day they will pay for it ...

whatabtme · Answer

my dad did a police complaint against my boyfriend and my bestfriend.And If I take his name he can be arrested and even his brother who doesn't know what happened yesterday between him and me. he slept in other room.he helped me with everything. he did so much for me and I can't just get him arrested for something he didn't do. he could call my parents but he kept my secret and let me stay.

NannoYuri · Answer

did your friend harass you that night?

whatabtme · Answer

I don't know if I can call it Harrassment

whatabtme · Answer

I could tell his brother but I didn't. I mean he helped me and all I can do is blame him that he Harassed me

betrayedBittern0 · Answer

you think he did lots of favour for you but he has this bad motive behind all this. he did all this for his own purpose not for you

whatabtme · Answer

yeah maybe

betrayedBittern0 · Answer

i don't know what you really want to do, but there is nothing to feel guilty

whatabtme · Answer

I want to tell my boyfriend but he can easily guess the person

betrayedBittern0 · Answer

it's better you tell your bf all this things and clear out things as soon as possible

Vai · Answer

Did he force yourself or it was mutual ..

whatabtme · Answer

and my boyfriend used to tell me to stay away from him because he knew all this intentions and even after I knew all this I did a big mistake

betrayedBittern0 · Answer

you should worry about that who did such things to you

whatabtme · Answer

it wasn't mutual I didn't want to do it but I needed a place to stay that's the reason I didn't react how I should have reacted

NannoYuri · Answer

you know exactly what happened there.   if you want our advice you need to be completely honest

whatabtme · Answer

yes I am completely honest

betrayedBittern0 · Answer

don't think too much about your mistake just learn from it

NannoYuri · Answer

if it wasn't mutual then it's a crime. don't let anyone treat you like you are an object.

whatabtme · Answer

my boyfriend will create a scene and my parents will get to know with whom I was staying and they will file a police complaint against him and his brother. I don't want all this to happen especially his big brother. he is innocent

betrayedBittern0 · Answer

i agree with you NannoYuri

Vai · Answer

Well, According to me whatever u feel u must tell ur boyfriend everything .. He will become angry but hiding right now will increase ur prob more .. at the end he will know about this by u or someone else n later that guy can blackmail you too so it's better to say him this way too .. n if u feel u have cheated then admitting is more important

Vai · Answer

If it wasn't mutual then it is obviously a crime n the guy is the one who cheated ur friendship

whatabtme · Answer

I learnt my mistake and ik I shouldn't have let him do things to me. I won't let it happen again. but rn I can't keep it a secret from my boyfriend.

whatabtme · Answer

yeah I agree

betrayedBittern0 · Answer

as you wish but you should clear this out one day

whatabtme · Answer

okay... ig I should tell him everthing without actually describing the person

betrayedBittern0 · Answer

but I want to say one more thing if you keep it as a secret, PPL like your friend do that things to others then I think that will be the big mistake

whatabtme · Answer

this could be the safest way ig

Vai · Answer

N no matter what .. u have to be strong .. see this way or the other problems are still there .. u must tell all ur probs to ur bf openly .. he will understand .. like why u ran n u cared about his worries and that's y u didn't involve him n then I had to ask him n now such things happened as I didn't know what to do n tell exactly what u feel

whatabtme · Answer

yess I will.

Vai · Answer

Yeah .. u know honesty n trust is imp in relationship .. no matter u have done wrong or right u have to tell them

whatabtme · Answer

yes true

Vai · Answer

If the guy forced u he is definately at his fault .. Idk about the brother though .. I think u must make him calm first .. tell ur boyfriend everything .. before a complaint, make a plan like some audio or video recording of the guy confessing without him knowing .. this way the guy who didn't do anything will be saved if he is not the guilty one .. n u have to play smart .. u have to tell n plan out with ur bf .. don't tell the guy's brother for now .. we don't know what kinda person he is cause u also don't know him much right, If u know already about him pehle se then too I would suggest not telling him at first cause we don't know the real face right .. he may be a good n it's a good thing if he is good otherwise u must not get into more trouble

Vai · Answer

I mean calm ur boyfriend first

whatabtme · Answer

yes I can do that

whatabtme · Answer

I'll tell my boyfriend when it's a right time

Vai · Answer

Yeah .. be very smart careful .. make sure u have enough space in ur phone, phone is silent and on dnd too if needed

Vai · Answer

I hope it helps .. he must not have a little hint tol

whatabtme · Answer

yess

Vai · Answer

Take care .. Jay Maa Kali

whatabtme · Answer

yepp

whatabtme · Answer

thanks<33

Vai · Answer

N one more thing, if u r done with recording .. make sure u send that to someone close or to some other number of urs cause after the recording is done .. if he will again start to force u n then u are restraining n then yet he is doing zabardasti just kick his balls .. he will have pain n u can really rescue n that time also without him knowing make sure ur recording is safe .. never let him know first

whatabtme · Answer

yeahh okayyy

Vai · Answer

Don't worry about the language I am a girl too

whatabtme · Answer

ohhh that was good to hear

Vai · Answer

Pretty smart though I am

whatabtme · Answer

yes u are... I agree

Vai · Answer

Hmm .. Don't worry .. things will be sorted if u r right at ur part .. If he has forced u n it wasn't mutual between u two he must he in guilt n if it was something mutual then accept n admit it to ur guy

whatabtme · Answer

yess

Vai · Answer

Maa Kali is always with truth and dharma .. don't worry

Vai · Answer

Take care ..

whatabtme · Answer

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