insecurity in relationship

Question

I am in a very committed relationship for the last 4 years with a brilliant man who is honest, dedicated and passionate. I never thought love and relationships can be so beautiful. He loves photography and his newest interest is in nude photography of women. He things this as an art and nothing more. But I can't stand the thought that perhaps he find other women more fascinating. I cannot compete with them and I don't want to. I think he would think that I am not beautiful enough. But he says I don't need to be perfect , he loves me for who I am. But this made me feel like as if I am not perfect in his eyes. I want some one who thinks I am perfect. I argued if this is an art let me model (nude) for another photographer to see how it really works but he is absolutely against it and says he can't stand someone else seeing me naked. He doesn't even want to end our relation. He wants me to accept it and thinks it as a silly reason to break up. But it is disturbing my peace. I don't want him to sacrifice anything for me.

Sunshineme · Answer

If u r not comfortable then he should understand abt if. Its not like he is giving up something he was already doing when he met you. So its ok

Sleepingpanda9 · Answer

That's the unfortunate thing .. if I ask him not to continue his newest passion he acts like a child and throws a fit. He says he will leave photography all together. Whereas I have objection for only one genre. It is disturbing my mental peace and affecting me on a daily basis. He doesn't even let me leave him.

perfumethrush · Answer

You should have an honest conversation once again about this with him and explain to him where you’re coming from when you say it bothers you. It’s understandable that it’s a passion of his and art holds a different place in his heart, but so should your opinions. The only way you can fix is this if you completely make him understand what about the current situation bothers you particularly, and how he can fix that from his end. The issue here is trust and security, and the conversation you have with him needs reassurance the existence of both in your relationship to you. If he is unable to do that, you should move on from the relationship for your own sake

Unluckychap · Answer

Tell him interest is something that comes and goes and that too it's a suddenly developed intrest . Talk to him about your side of story your insecurity if he really loves you he will consider it .tell him U dont want to argue on dis bt simply letting my heart out coz this relationship means to you

i am an immature person so don't judge me i am mental patient

Frustrating

help me please

how do I change for the better?