it's a recipe for disaster for your mental health. - I hope this clears ur doubts. if u need to vent things out we're here
Roadster
dint get you skylar
skylar
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I meant - you're suffering, aren't u? will u be able to see someone u love in a committed relationship with someone else? I mean its not fair to neither 3 of u!! (u both have feeling for each other,right? )
Roadster
1
yes true, it's hurting me to see him with his gf. Thats wat I always tell him. But the only thing he asked me is lets not break our friendship bcz he doesnt wanna loose me. Neither I could walk away when all he asked is to stay with him as friend. Its easy for him to b just friend as he is already commited and love someone else. For me uts very difficult as I have only him and it hurts me alot to c him someone else. Without being in relationship I still think about him
Roadster
I told him the same thing that I cannot see you with any1 else neither his doing anything about it. I don't know if it wil hurt him too if he see me with other guy.
shivang
1
not possible but you are to try
shivang
*you are free to try*
Roadster
1
tried also just for him. Fought with him multiple times bcz of ny jealousy but nothing changed. It doesn't matter to him that I'm hurt. Even I don't wanna loose him ever but when I realise he is with someone else , it hurts like hell. Sometimes I avoid it but sometimes I just can't take it. And in all just one response he has "I told u everything" which makes me feel I m a fool whose trying to be just friend. Somewhere in all the pain, I still don't wanna loose him. But don't know if that pain is worth him. Wondering if he wil b in pain to c me with some other guy. But he does get jealous if I tel him m out with other guy friends. Cant understand this.
skylar
I'll answer ur queries after 2 hr- got classes to attend. take it easy for urself. sometimes it hurts more holding on than letting go.
Roadster
Right now I don't know what is hurting me more that I let him go away or that m not talking to him. I m in a maze which just gets more complicated. Eventually he will marry her and be happy with her. I told him I wil block him everywr that time. I just wished he would realise how badly I wanted we to be togather. But I can't force him to love me if he loves someone else.
Roadster
Happiness is important
shivang
Then do what make you happy
shivang
if you keep thinking about that guy, then you never be able to cure your kind of depression
shivang
Get super busy for time being
skylar
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roadster, I'm back! is he aware of your feeling for him? if yes, then is he like double timing u both? 😳
Roadster
hey Shivang, I know . I m trying to keep myself busy all the time so that I don't miss him.
Roadster
happiness is just talking to him even if it is nothing but at the same time I know it's temporary.
shivang
I guess you should try some new people.
Roadster
yes Skylar he is aware of his feelings. infact he took one step closer first that time I was nt aware abt his gf. but whn I took the next step, he said his commited. he did tell me his commited to someone but till now he never ever told me anything else about him and his relationship. I always ask him as I deserve to know everything. just by telling me his committed is not enuf. till now he always says, I wil tel u everything at ryt time. n I dnt think that wil ever come. he gives me all Bhushan that I hv to focus on my life, life doesn't end on one person and so on. But he doesn't realise that I know everything it just tgathard to accept. Although I have blocked him now, it's me getting more hurt than him. he must b busy with his gf. he is giving me calls but I know he wil give up after few days. so I want that only now. let him give up as it is he wil never go out of his way as I never mattered to him.
shivang
who relate to you, for example if you are artist then talk with artist, increase your friend circle
Roadster
m an introvert very much. I rarely talk to any1. it was him I opened up my heart and got hurt.
shivang
there is nothing like introvert, just vibe match honi chahiye
Roadster
vibes toh nahi aah Rahe. its all about vibes. Even if I don't talk to him I feel that vibe in his presence. No matter how much I try to talk with difft people which I did try, vibes never matched.
shivang
I gotta go, work is calling. and my is suggestion is stay away from that guy endure the pain, show some kindness towards yourself
Roadster
yes sir, trying to go away from him for the very fact I know his still happy without me
skylar
so he cheated on two people at the same time it seems.... move on, I understand the warmth and security he must've given you,for so much being attached to him when u needed, - which was an illusion. ofc it'll take time to gather urself again, but you will. if u ever feel like venting things of ur chest we're here to listen!
Roadster
thank u Skylar for being there. He did not cheat on me. He did tell me that his commited to someone, it just that even he feels something towards me. May b thats fading now from his heart bcz it was lust or attraction I don't know but now his not feeling the same. But he did nt cheat.
Roadster
his blocked everywr currently but his stil calling me n m getting his blocked call notifications. m feeling bad bcz I can't hurt him like this. shal I unblock him and talk normally?
shivang
noo
skylar
diff perspectives ,diff justifications, it's emotional cheating(he knew he was comitted to someone,still lead u on he subconsciously cheated), roadster. it can be because he's confused abt his feelings or not. but what matters how u take it and move on. be a Phoenix roadster, ull get up from ur ashes, more stronger than before, will get all the happiness you deserve. take care of urself and ur mental health. feel share to share anything u want in community.
skylar
if you think you can get closure from one last call,than you should. receive and end for ur sanity , yeah? listen to ur conscience - it'll always guide you the best.
shivang
vo vaapas aa raha hai kyoki vo apne dono mai ladoo chaahta hai
shivang
*dono haath*
Roadster
1
I know what he wil say "sorry" and he will then go away. but with his one sorry I will melt that also he knows. Thank u guys for being there. right now I m just blank but don't wanna unblock him. I know his happy with his gf as it is they roam everywr with his family. Thanks alot. just pray for me that I shud come out of him asap. I just don't want to feel anything for a person who doesn't feel the same for me. Hurting me doesnt even hurt him. n here I'm still thinking if his getting hurt. Its time I shud stay away from him and let him b happy.