There is no defined path towards happiness, for some of us it's our career, some family and friends, some just enjoy their solitude. But by the end of the day one thing that we all long for is someone with whom we can feel comfortable and be happy. All our lives we have been taught to find the one perfect ideal match "a soulmate". I don't hate the idea, but why one when there can be many, my mom can be my soulmate, my friend can be Or it can even be a lover. The series of events are different in every individuals life but we can't ignore the fact that at some point or the other they often tend to overlap. No matter how hard we try Our past relationships have an influence on our present. All the way along we pick certain traits we would want in the person or what we would not want to have. The fear of unknown is something that we all deal without even realising. What if he no more likes me? What if he does something wrong? All the shortcomings of our past relationships often tend to reflect in our present which makes us extra careful. Even though we want to enjoy the moments, the thoughts are struck in our minds. It's not something that's gonna wear off in a day it takes time. So let's start today by reminiscing all those beautiful moment you spent together, let's no compare and enjoy our present. Let's give your beautiful kids a life, an environment they can be thankful for. Go out spend your weekends together, maybe watch a movie, plan a family game night, let your partner spend time with your kids, give them someone who adores them the way you do. There might not be a direct way towards a happy carefree life, but all these indirect paths are gonna add up and you are gonna enjoy every moment of it. Go on dates and live the present, you have one life to live make sure you make it a rememborable one. P. S. :- I'm sorry I talk a lot but a hope you have a beautiful life ahead! :)