letting her go.

Question

it's been 7 years I made a decision. My best friend was in a relationship, but wasn't happy. her boyfriend kept cheating on him and i was there. saw her weep i always had this impression she loves him like hell. bcz after all these he had done to her she still wanted him. I was honestly impressed by her dedication even though it felt like stupid. so one day they finally broke up. so oneday, she called me to meet me. now I couldn't come, i asked could she tell me over the phone what's so important? so she said she loves me. anyway we had a good understanding between us since we were bestee. so we went in a relationship. 1 week later her bf knows bout this and felt jealous and wanted to come back. he wanted to meet her and talk to her. she asked me what to do. i said do what you want to do. if you think u wanna give him another chance you can. it's your call. and then she went back to him. i cried once and all went back. Her bf changed ever since. they are still together now.

rianne · Answer

that's not fair on your side. it's like she just used u. im sorry that happened to you. i hope you wont settle again for the kind of love. only needed when something inconvenient happens.

pluckyotter2 · Answer

u regret letting her go??

alertchile0 · Answer

you did well. you are a good friend and human. It must have been hard for you but you anyway did a right thing

DHRUBA001 · Answer

well the thing is I felt bad watching her go. but then i realised a few things. i was the only one there for her, so she might have grown infatuation for me which she mistook as Love. but when she asked me the question what she is gonna do. i could have Said no. but I realised that if she is steadfast bout me she would have said no to him anyway but she asked so she has a conflict in her mind. i never wanna keep someone with me if they they don't wanna stay , they are free to go and i don't hold any grudge. I knew she won't come back to me. and i was right. they decided to move together. i also told her if you decide to move with him just tell him it was all a ploy to make him feel jealous so that things won't get escalated.

DHRUBA001 · Answer

i felt bad letting her go. i won't lie. but I don't regret it. reason is her boyfriend has changed completely ever since. I could not have done things for her due to some limitations, but he did. the way he supported . he is a successful guy aland he has the ability to provide her better things and keep her happier. I don't want someone to stay with me and later regret. so yeah i don't regret letting her go, bcz He took care of her really good and he has a preety good job with a really good salary.

pluckyotter2 · Answer

the way u dealt the situation even at the cost of ur suffering is really nice.i can understand u r broken at that time and it takes time for u to heal. u will definitely meet ur person soon whom u r meant to be with have faith.

DHRUBA001 · Answer

we are still good friends. we always stands by eachother. there is a great distance bcz after college we haven't met so much. i don't hold grudges nor m angry or anything. m kind of happy.

Sr_raheja · Answer

just because she was your best friend didn't mean you could enter into a relationship with her.......you are hurt because you lost a friend nothing else

DHRUBA001 · Answer

Sr_raheja, I didn't loose a friend. we remained bestfriend after that till now. everything is still fine. there is no such thing as you can be lovers in you are bestfriends. i have seen many people not just getting into a relationship but also getting married after that. So that part is fine .

Sr_raheja · Answer

dude she just used you...and there is no point crying over it now.....your friend won't live in a stable relationship now....as she went back to her cheating boyfriend......but you move on coz you don't deserve to be someone's second option

DHRUBA001 · Answer

Sr_raheja, m not hurt anymore. i had this thing in me for a long time. m happy i made the decision to let her go. because how it turned was all fine. i never told this to anyone. for all these years I kept it to myself. We had a convo today and i suddenly remembered those moments. what ever it was no matter how short, it was beautiful. m thankful it happened. 😊

DHRUBA001 · Answer

Se_raheja she didn't cheat on her boyfriend. she was single. he left and when he saw us he wanted to come back.

i am an immature person so don't judge me i am mental patient

Frustrating

help me please

how do I change for the better?