Do no contact. Let him wonder what the hell happened. If he doesn't contact you in a week....then leave him.
he does call in every 5-6 days, and acts like nothing happened. all chill and lovely
and then when i complain, then i am bad person who is ruining mood and then he doesn't feel like talking
i told him if you think this is all the attention you can give me, then i don't want this relation anymore. he was even okay with that. he says if thats what you want then we can call if off
i don't want to fight, break up, hurt both of us. why can't he change 😭😭
That's why gotta leave sooner or later. A man who was in call with me 24/7 and video call at night while sleeping for 2 years (fully long distance met in a game) left me because his parents doesn't like me because am from different country and religion. He cried while breaking up with me and made me into a second choice. If a guy like that can leave what about your guy who hardly cares? I am still recovering from breakup and I live alone, and since my Uni hasn't started am in my room distracting myself with dramas.
you are right. but i want to marry this guy. if i leave him, then life will be very difficult. my brother is alcoholic and abusive. my toxic family might marry me off against my will to someone not suitable for me. this guy my bf was me escape to a better life. and he taking my too lightly because he knows i am trapped and wont leave him. which is true.
I was the same as you always looking for a man to make your life better or to make me happy. Well, this breakup taught me a hard lesson. That if you depend on a man or someone else to make you happy. You never will. You have two options, a) You build up some courage, stop victimising yourself and get out of that relationship and hurt yourself a little less, a little bearable because you're doing it for you or, b) wait for the man to crush you to bits and pieces and more tragically that you end up hating yourself for putting up with your and his own bullshit. Either way the universe will teach you a lesson to be independent one day and hard. When that happens it's going to be hard, either you stay stuck broken or stand up for yourself. Today, is the day I decided I don't want to cry everyday and wait for someone who doesn't care for me anymore and so far my day is going good. lonely? very much... but I'd rather choose to be lonely than be humiliated. Just so you know I didn't get to this point in seconds. it took me two months, 1 month of begging and pleading and I stopped contacting. That's me choosing me. The Universe pushed me hard out of that relationship for me not for anybody else.
That was an eye opening suggestion. lets see, i will see if my relation is happening easily, if not then I will take his behaviour as a red flag and slowly start detaching from him. i don't want to get hurt and lose my hold on life. thanks a lot :)
Just so you know, you detaching yourself is going to be much easier process rather than the Universe pulling you out of that toxic attachment. Do yourself a favour and save yourself before the Universe do. Because when higher power steps in, they harsh and painful af. The pain you will go through while detaching yourself, expect it to be 100× when the Universe step in.
u hv d ans in front of u..a man who is less invested means he doesnt care abt u dat mch but other reason cud b dat u are nagging him to do it..stop complaining abt hw mch less attention he gives u..n involve urself wid other frnds or hobbies..if u observe dat he asks u whre u are at?n strts giving u more time then u both r good to go..n if he doesnt observe anything n keeps doing d same u r nt wid d right man my dear