Yes, its a very difficult situation. But in this case mainly you both have to be on same page. Its better to end now than continue if he already knows he cant try. Its going to be very tough for you. But whats the point if he is not taking a stand for you

Hey! Thanks for reaching out. I can understand it must be really difficult, 9 years is a very long time. But since you both know now that you can’t be together and have mutually decided to not continue this further. Try to accept it and cherish the good memories you had with each other. You have been in each other’s life and helped each othe rgrow but now your part in each other’s life as partner has ended. Both of you now need to grow individually. It will take time, it will hurt a lot too. Acknowledge this feeling, feel it then try to outgrow it. Ask your parents for some time to be in the right mind space. Marriage is a huge aspect and requires a lifetime of commitment you don’t want to unjust to yourself. Try to first be comfortable with this situation and accept it then gradually try move ahead. In the mean time try to make a goal for yourself and try to engage yourself in achieving it will keep you occupied. Try to be on the positive side, dont blame yourself for anything. You dont Have to be pushover in anybody’s life. Focus on yourself.

I just feel that I will never be happy again.

You will! Just don’t associate your happiness with a person, celebrate little achievements. Focus on yourself and give yourself time things will fall in place.