its been more than 2 years that i've talked to that person
importedCaviar0
things were going fine but in mid march, i felt like things are about to fuck up again and now its increasing day by day
importedCaviar0
i dont know how to get over this
Zoya Ahmad
Hey! Do you mind elaborating a little bit about what’s happening?
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binned32
Pick up the phone and talk . Let things go with the flow
importedCaviar0
we stopped talking 2 years ago... in feb 2019 to be exact because of a stupid thing.. i begged her to stay which i shouldnt have done and then she agreed but went really cold.. when i shared anything she kept telling me i dont want to hear any of this and we havent talked since then. now im going abroad in a short time, when i got my visa(march) i felt i should tell her and meet her before going but then i had a dream in april in which i started talking to her and things became better i dont remember much but in the end of that dream i was crying and saying i shouldnt have started talking to you(her)... now a few days ago i dreamt about her again and i cant get her out of my mind.. i want to talk to her but im scared that she will say something really bad again that will hurt me badly as last time when we talked i told her i feel so lonely and all of my friendships are falling apart, she said we all are lonely no one has anyone to talk to so learn to live this way
importedCaviar0
and now im unable to open up to other people as im unable to trust anyone.. idk why but i just cant give any other person a chance because it feels they'll fuck me up too
importedCaviar0
all i want is to stop thinking about her
importedCaviar0
but its just getting worse
Zoya Ahmad
I think you did not get a proper closure.
I think you should call her once and tell her how you feel and ask her how does she feels, don’t be afraid.
Vent what you feel and don’t push yourself in her life.
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importedCaviar0
okay.. thank you for this
importedCaviar0
i was really confused if i should talk to her or not
Zoya Ahmad
Be very polite tell her in the beginning itself that you just want to express, it doesn’t make her oblige to anything. Give her some space.
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importedCaviar0
do you think texting would be fine or i should talk over a call only?
Zoya Ahmad
What do you think will give you less anxiety?
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importedCaviar0
texting
importedCaviar0
also i wanted to say you're an amazing person.. thank you for your support
Zoya Ahmad
I am glad,
Then text.
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importedCaviar0
she didn't reply..
importedCaviar0
tbh it's good, i tried once, if she dont want to talk its up to her. let it be this way
Zoya Ahmad
Yes! I am proud of you that you actually had the courage to talk and be okay with the situation.
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importedCaviar0
but i feel really bad about it. it sucks, idk how long i have to go with it
importedCaviar0
maybe i need to start with the medicines again, i was on antidepressants but left those a year ago on my own
Zoya Ahmad
You will be fine.
What all have you been feeling?
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importedCaviar0
idk.. im really confused.. on one side i keep thinking about her and want to talk to her as im not coming back any time soon(im moving to canada) and i wont see her(also i havent seen her for more than 2 years).. on the other hand i keep thinking about the possibilities that maybe i'll find someone better in canada who'll understand me like her or even better.. but when it really happens i fuck it up as recently a girl proposed me.. the moment she said i want to be in a relationship with you i started thinking about her(the one i was talking about earlier(
importedCaviar0
its all messed up but i wont give up.. also im not able to open up to anyone, even to my so called best friends
importedCaviar0
idk why i have this habbit of keeping everything to myself
Zoya Ahmad
I see, it’s okay. Give yourself time to heal from this.
And try to refrain from having a hope that she would come back.
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I'll try my best. Thank you again! You're a gem!!
importedCaviar0
is it normal that i still talk to her.. tell her things but in my head?.. when im trying to sleep.. i keep saying things in my head that i would have said to her if we were still talking.. its like i talk to her imaginary version where only i say things.. if its not normal can i do anything about it?
Zoya Ahmad
How about writing them on a paper?
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importedCaviar0
and what after this?
Zoya Ahmad
Then you can let it be, you will be able to express what you have been feeling.
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