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i am really depressed and worried. my bf is a muslim and i am a hindu... we still go for dates and we love each other.  we dont have any common interests to talk to. but we are madly in love each other and thats crazy. now, its the 4th time he is breaking my heart by saying that we wont have a future ahead together. i am a person who needs support from someone. i fell to a dark place before, i didnt even recognise myself then.it was a worst nightmare. the last time he promised this wont happen again, and yet it did happened again. i am sick of it. i always look forward for commitment. if i dont see that in them i just leave. here, i am not able to leave him because i am very deeply in love with him. i am upset about this. all these days i couldnt speak to anyone. i do respect his family. but i am afraid that in future i will suffer and hurt a lot.

DeadTree · Answer

wait what, really? well i understand ur pain, my gf she broke up with me saying so

richa7 · Answer

i dont want to break up. i dont have that courage to do so. i need him with me.

DeadTree · Answer

please calm down and stay strong it hurts a lot tbh, i am actually going through same and i sm a good listener

DeadTree · Answer

lol i said same to her nd she abused me a lot tbh

richa7 · Answer

he is also going through a lot now. he is hurt. he thinks that if he makes a girl cry for him, he will have some kind of curse.... and i did cry. so, he has a lot of pressure to handle. so i am not able to talk about my feelings. even if i talk something casually i end up bringing this topic

richa7 · Answer

so, he is stressed.. yesterday he told me that he is tired of this... every night i wont let him sleep it seems. but i have to talk to someone right? i have no friends.

DeadTree · Answer

um please calm down then and don't feel alone, better talk with ppl nd make everything sorted out

richa7 · Answer

i dont have any trusted ones

DeadTree · Answer

oh don't worry you can share it with me, i faced same pain so i can be a good listener nd i don't have a lot good friends too

DeadTree · Answer

you can trust me sis, ig ur elder than me so take me as younger brother

richa7 · Answer

i did have... and i lost them. last time when he broke my heart they were with me. i did stay strong and said if this is the case i wont be able to be with him. so, its the same situation and i am not able to talk to anyone.

DeadTree · Answer

why- why can't ya talk?? please don't feel alone nd we can always talk here,

richa7 · Answer

i just cant.... its something i cant explain.

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

You respect his family, that's fine, but what about yours? Would your parents accept this relationship? Ask yourself this question. Secondly, if he is repeatedly stating that you've no future together, maybe he is just being honest with you. Instead of giving you false hopes and breaking your heart later, he is being downright honest with you. It is a hard pill to swallow, but think about the possible decisions and reactions of both families and decide what to do. You need to be strong and think about your own future here. He is being practical. Go ahead with this only if you're certain of a potential future together.

richa7 · Answer

it is a hard pill to swollow. but i did move on last time. he was the one who told me that 'we can make things right. lets be together. how can we move apart if we are still in love? ' and so....

DeadTree · Answer

well this world is so harsh, yk we ppl can't really love by watching personality, it's this freaking society that make ppl like us suffer, who serves humanity

richa7 · Answer

its very true. i am lost now.

DeadTree · Answer

lol same with my gf but she has changed a lot, anyway calm down sis nd ur not alone, specially tbvh i have same luck, i hate this life a bit for it's toxicity

richa7 · Answer

my family will be ok with it i think. gradually they will be ok. i thought about them last time. he is just like a magnet. i just fall for his love. 🥺

DeadTree · Answer

don't be lost, hey how about we both talk things out and cheer eachother? i don't really have friends nd i feel like a 'thing' now since everyone use nd throw me

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

He himself is uncertain of the future. If he told you he can make things work, why is he giving up now? I've no idea who you are, or what you do, but considering you as a sister, I would suggest you to move on for the better. The longer you stay, the more it is gonna hurt. The sooner you leave, the better it would be for you. Be selfish and think about yourself for a minute here. Don't keep your hopes up. He seems to be indecisive about your relationship. There's no reason for him to stand by you in the future. I hope you get my point. Right now it would seem like a nearly impossible thing to do, but it is for your own good

DeadTree · Answer

oh man, ur such a sweet person, calm down nd don't feel alone I'm here since ik that pain tbh

richa7 · Answer

i feel a little motivated. 🙂i am really glad that i talked it out here.

DeadTree · Answer

well sorry it was only a little but i assure you I'll be waiting here if u ever feel bad, just contact me here

richa7 · Answer

thank you♥️

DeadTree · Answer

welcome, nd btw ur looking beautiful ( i can see the human inside you)

richa7 · Answer

aww.... 🥺

DeadTree · Answer

take care okay??

richa7 · Answer

yep.... i will try to.

DeadTree · Answer

if it looks difficult, let me know, will you?

richa7 · Answer

sure

Bells420 · Answer

hello! i'm so sorry you're feeling this way. but im so proud of you for opening up! thank u for sharing. but please put yourself first. you are putting ur heart and future on the line. this is when you have to use your mind. it'll hurt at first but i promise i promise you'll recover.

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