Hi. I think the best way to come out of this situation would be to use open and honest communication. That too as soon as it can be done- there is no point continuing with such relationships when one knows they won't be leading anywhere (worse still, imagine the girl still sticking around with one of these guys only out of guilt). Communicating feelings in such a scenario might not always be easy so resorting to non-verbal means (e.g., online communication or a letter) can be helpful in terms of both better communication and less confrontation.
Hii. You mentioned about open and honest communication. Well my present Mobile number has been misused by the Head girl of the School and she used to text her BF with it. And now her BF is one of those 2 boys. The boy says that he will die if I do not respond. Should I seek some Telecom help in researching the past records of my mobile phone. How can I legally come out of this situation?
Yes. That is also a good idea to talk to that girl first. But I just do not want to spoil her present by reminding her of her past. Being a girl I cannot risk the reputation of other girl. I feel like facing it myself but now this is really a mentally harassing case from that boy
I gather from your post that you are enmeshed in a triangle with two guys and you aren't interested in either. In that case, I would like to begin by asking that if you are not romantically inclined towards either, then what is making you feel trapped in it? I would need to know more on this end to help you.
Hi! The patient is feeling a peer pressure from the collegues. She is not romantically inclined towards the either two. But she had a "decent crush" on one of her senior collegue. And that information is being used "inappropriately" by one of the guy in the triangle.
Waiting for your Reply Hansa Ma'am
When you say inappropriate, can you shed more light on what the patient's fear is?
More than a romantic confusion, it seems like the pateint you are talking about is stuck in a situation of blackmail.
Is that right?
Also, what is the patient's age?
Hello Hansa Ma'am
The Fear is of "Misinterpretation". The hand gestures used in Classical Dancing have been taken misappropriately . Yes it is a case of Blackmailing. The age of the patient is 17 years. But I feel that age is not a criteria in this case
If you feel that someone is blackmailing the patient over an image by misusing it, I would urge them to reach out an adult they trust. Perhaps a teacher or maybe a parent.
In such a situation the best thing one can do is intimate adults. Since the patient is a minor, age is relevant. Please involve a trusted adult.
Yes Invoking is a good Idea. But family members are highly orthodox and the teachers of the school have their own personal conflicts due to which "invoking" is something that the patient is not comfortable with.
The patient is already suffering from Insomania.
Her only mistake of having a "crush" on a guy can be taken in any sense by the school and her own family.
I feel it is better to avoid or block all the communications from this very school and take an admission in another school. What do you suggest?
Having a crush on someone is normal. And while the patient's parents may not understand this, someone from school faculty might. Changing schools will also require convincing parents. If that is possible, go ahead. Otherwise reach out to someone.
Since the patient is a minor, an adult will have to be involved. Especially since blackmailing is involved. I would urge you to help the patient think of some adult they trust.
Your Advices are relieving the patient in a very very positive manner Ma'am. The patient is highly greatful to you as her "GUILT" of having a Crush on a Guy seems normal to her now. She was feeling herself to be the culprit.
She has decided to approach the mother of one of the Boy in the triangle since her mother is a school teacher in that very school. But the patient is still afraid as she does not have support her her female Collegues. Her female Collegues have done her character assassination. She just wants support of girls of the school.