low self esteem because of career

Question

Hey! I am a 21 year old girl. Corona pandemic has delayed my graduation from college by a few months and I still await to give examinations for the same. I was admitted to the present course due to the prospects of it showed by my parents and not because I wanted to do it. In between the pandemic I gave the entrances for higher studies in multiple colleges for multiple subjects. However I am pretty much lost about what I want to do with myself. I constantly get the thought that I am a lost cause with no hopes of succeeding in anything when I see my counterparts from school days who've done so much in their college years and are either employed with a good firm or are studying in fancy universities abroad. I feel I am a disgrace to my parents and myself for not achieving anything real as of now. What to do to get out of this menace? And to live a stress-free life.

s_chirps · Answer

I don’t know how to explain this to you but I had gone through something similar where I saw everyone around me with good degrees and a fancy high paying job. what really made me realise was that these things doesn’t bring happiness to me or my parents. How good you’re as a person in terms of behaviour with others and parents does speak a lot about you. Along with this, your competition shouldn’t be with someone else but yourself. You should look to improve yourself as a human being each day and that’s what I did to improve my life and over come that feeling. I challenged myself and compared myself with the yesterday me

Sahitya-MG · Answer

Hi Hannahcyrus. Thankyou for reaching out. Pandemic has been stress ful many of us. Our plans have been paused or delayed. But it is not the end. Your goals are just delayed but you will soon achieve it. Moreover everyone has their own pace to achieve things in life. So please don't compare yourself with others. I understand it's tough to pass through this situation. But being patient might do wonders. Try to distract your mind by working on something yoy like to do. Utilize this time to learn something new,new course,new hobby .

hannahcyrus · Answer

Thank you so much for responding. Yes, I would definitely try to be patient. And maybe try to be off the social media for a bit of detox as it tends to give rise to an inferiority complex. Trying to be positive for now.

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