low self esteem because of career

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Hie guys. I am new to this. I just want to share something with you all. I will be 23 this week and I still haven’t achieved anything in any field. As in I am jobless, single, dependent on parents, still graduating and totally lost in life. There might be two more years to my current degree but it’s too much now. I mean after graduating too I don’t know what to do with my life. If I know what I want I don’t know from where to start. Along with this I’ve experienced too much emotionally too. I had my breakup this year and unfriended my 8 years of friendship with someone because eventually I knew at some point that both wre toxic for me. I just feel frustrated all the time and have so many mood swings. I feel unmotivated and doesn’t even move from my bed.

Windmaster · Answer

Hi amazedOtter29. Your experience sounds similar to my brothers expect that he's 24. He is pretty my dependent on our parents but still finds small small ways to earn a but here and there to manage his personal expenses. I know that it hard to cope up in a society who thinks that if you're 21+ (especially male) and jobless or still dependent isn't normal but don't be in a hurry to label your living so soon you're still young. Find ways to enjoy life without feeling compared to society standards and it is okay to befriend people especially the toxic ones cause you know the best for yourself. You have a whole life ahead of you, waiting for you, not to become something but to enjoy it and live a good one. Everything will fall into place when it has to and you need not worry about it. And it is completely okay to lay in bed for days and still not do anything. Take your time we all need our space:)

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