Hello Ishaa,
Why do you suddenly thinking of age after 3 years of your relationship? Do you have any guilt of what you are doing or the person you are in relationship with making you realize of such thing to break up with you?
Ishaaaa
No ...i am nt evn feeling guily rather i am just feeling lucky to have that guy in my life..i am just thinking that what will happen in our future...what people's will say about our relationship...
hansa_shaunik
1
We don't consciously choose who we are attracted to.
I understand that you were 14 and he was 26 when you began your relationship.
That is a 12 year age gap.
It is not uncommon for adults to enter into relationships where there is such a huge age gap.
With that said, it's important to note, I said adults.
It's not so much a matter of what you're doing being "wrong" as it is a matter of it being good for you or not.
Age isn't just a number. Your age is also defined by your experiences and your roles and expectations. Which is why such a big difference when people are in their 20s, 30s and 40s, can still be managed and dealt with.
During teenage however, you are growing and changing rapidly, and you will continue to do that for a while. Which is why the same age difference at your age is not exactly good for you or him.
Apart from this there are also the legal ramifications to consider. You are after all a minor.
This may not exactly be good you in the long run. I know that it's very painful. You must have very strong feelings toward this person. But let it not be at the cost of your wellbeing.
R_anjum
1
Everything is right if it ends well. If the guy is right and you think he is not taking advantage of you then just go with it. Please be on same page with him about the future of your relationship and if you are willing to take it forward then discuss with him how are you planning to reveal it to your families.
Ishaaaa
Am i doing right
hansa_shaunik
1
Like I mentioned before age is not just a matter of a number. It is determined by many more factors.
Given your age,the gap is simply too large.
Take this time to explore yourself, grow and challenge. The more enriched your experience becomes the more independent you'll feel as an individual.
Developing that sense of self will be greatly hampered by this age gap.
Please do what's best for you.
Also, the very fact that you have asked this question does show that this is plaguing your mind. Please pay heed to that. Even when we aren't consciously aware of it, our mind raises an alarm for things that won't serve us well.
Furthermore, there are also legal ramifications given that you are a minor.