missing a friend

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General Query

I have been constantly missing my friends. I feel like I need them more than they need me and because I am the one who calls them a lot, I feel like that I'm just adding a burden on them. Also yesterday I had a dream about one of my friends on whom I had a long time crush but the thing is he didn't, and I know that so I never kept any expectations. But the issue is we, rather he stopped having any kind of contact with me. And since yesterday, my mind is fucked and I miss him terribly. And the worst part of it all is that I can't talk to anyone about it.

Anythingiguess

11 Answers
rkaka
Hey, What you should do is call him and talk to him, straighten things out. Communication at times can solve a lot of problems. Tell him how much his friendship meant to you.
Anythingiguess
I cannot do that. That's the main problem. I have tried talking to him before. But I never got any reply and the message used to be seen. So i made a vow that I won't compromise my self respect anymore. I have given enough chances. But right now I'm mindfucked. I mean I want to talk to him but my conscience stops me. I hope you get it.
rkaka
Well I guess just talk to him and sort it out. It’s upto you and at times forgive and forget is the way forward
hansa_shaunik
Hi, anythingiguess, what lead to this fall out between you two?
Anythingiguess
he had some issues financially and i was anyway out of town due to college so we already were not talking much. we have had this on and off friendship for years but finally things seemed to be pretty normal this time apart from his own issues. i really liked him. i tried talking 2-3 times but he always seemed to ignore me. but this time i had had enough and hence i moved on and deleted his number and unfollowed him on social media so that i could move on. but i guess my mind likes to play its own game
Anythingiguess
So yeah this is it. But I don't know how to control these feelings of missing him. Because I did have a crush and what I miss most is our friendship
hansa_shaunik
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It seems like you were very attatched to this person. If trying to resolve things is not an option for you, then give your self time. You seem to be expecting that uncomfortable feelings should be controlled. Break ups are painful. It takes time to get over them. Which means that till that time you will feel sad, and mud the person a lot Allow that to take its course. The more you resist it, the more difficult it will be. If I may ask why is it that you cannot talk to anyone about this?
Anythingiguess
because even though I have my best friends, I dont tell them everything. I kind of keep a lot of things with myself.
emptySnail3
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hansa_shaunik
It may help to relook into that. What hold you back from sharing with others? Is there some fear there?
Anythingiguess
yes ma'am, the fear of being judged. i dont like everyone even people close to me everything. i guess somethings are best kept to yourself

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