See first of all it's ur call to be in a relationship. Think why u r in this relationship. Then don't blame anyone just give it a shot. If u want to be with this guy talk to ur parents take a stand. Ask them convince them. On other hand don't try to be in two boats that u r suffocated in relationship other hand u dont want to marry someone else. Buddy u have to be clear.

Things are not complicated u r not clear about things.

I am not clear because I feel trapped... This guy behaves like he will be devastated if I leave him, and promises that everything will become good, but nothing changes... on the other hand, I have seen my mother and elder sister suffer in their marriages, due to which I am totally afraid of marrying a stranger!

Oh that's tough situation buddy what do u want

U can share

Do u want to be with this guy

As far as stranger u can talk understand a person. See it's 9 years and still u r not sure about this guy

U know him and might be a stranger a better person u can understand in no time nicer. It's not time it's the bond that matters. Sometimes these stranger people are great. U r not ur sister neither ur mother. U r u. Born with ur own fingerprint . See if this relationship is making u feel trapped I would suggest move on .

I really don't want to be with this guy, but also am not sure whether there will be someone better, because he is still much better than other people I have met. Also, in arrange marriages, there is no scope for talking and understanding

No buddy it's not true

U don't want to be with this guy

For arrange marriage I would suggest try attending relatives marriage u will find someone I am pretty sure

It can be arrange cum love too also

I know that I am not my mother or my sister, but arrange marriage scares me a lot and I am not even able to think about loving anyone else...

See try to find a guy ur family approves and u approve simple

I guess so...

See buddy now u r saying u can't think of someone else and on other hand saying u dont want to be with him

Thanks..

I think u should be clear. U want both things .

Take care

I can't think of loving someone else as I am scared that I will not be able to find an understanding person...

Buddy I think u should give time and talk to ur parents about how u feel

I definitely don't want this guy, but am not sure whether I will be able to get someone better

What matters is what u feel

Why not buddy 7 billion people on earth

This is the only person who has tried to approach me, otherwise most guys seem to dislike me...

No buddy

U r lovable

Just be calm

I am sorry buddy but I can't talk to my parents as I only have my mother (my father passed away recently)... and my mother is super conservative and doesn't approve of even talking to a guy before marriage... Even if I say that I need some time for my career, she says that I am growing older and starts abusing me as well as this guy...

Oh so sorry buddy

I am very sorry buddy

Before my father's demice, he was trying to find a match for me and when I asked for some time, he forced me to send my picture and biodata, for which I again refused... following which, my mother started abusing this guy...

Take care buddy

Tell this guy to send his parents to ur house

My sister didn't even have a chance to say anything while her marriage was being fixed... even when she tried, my mother started crying and blackmailing her

We have different castes, so the marriage will not be approved by my mother... Also, we are neglecting the fact that I don't want to be with this guy

Ok buddy. All the best take care

Thanks for your time buddy

can u tell what is wrong in your current relation

Hi Humorous Magpie7... thanks for asking... In my current relationship, the most disturbing thing is him being possessive. Whenever I am out, with friends, late due to my work, he starts fighting. Even if I am on a call with him and someone starts talking to me in between, and I tell my partner to hold, he might wait one or two times, but most of the times he gets irritated and throws tantrums that "you don't have time for me" or.. "why did you call if you were busy"... We talk like 6-10 times a day, sometimes even meaningless calls just to say where are you or what are you doing etc, still if I don't call him for longer than a gap of 3-4 hrs, he complains whether I forgot about him...

i think he is just having expectations and it is ok to have them

he just wants your time and i think every person deserves to feel valued and its a good thing he calls u it shows he is invested

its just u need to ask him for space for some times and assure him that u dont have to worry

it as if your partner has chained you with himself now it purely an opinion but do you feel drained after spending time with your partner?you need some space to think about things but I'm not anyway suggesting you pack your bags and immersed in wanderlust as the maori haka goes the answers to all your doubts is within you have a nice year

humorousMagpie7... I understand what you are saying, but it is not that I have never asked for space... it's been 9 years, and these types of issues have always been there a matter of discussion between us. I have tried my best to tell him so, and as I said, he promises to understand, but never changes...

cynicalapricots2... We don't get to meet each other much often as we are in a long distance relationship. But whenever we meet, we generally tend to fight... Although we try to solve it, but most of the times it turns out to be a bitter experience....

You should break up him if it doesn't feel right or you feel suffocated . A relationship should be a place where you feel comfortable , Just think about it if you marry your current partner how are you gonna spend your rest life with him , no options would be left for you then , you should break up with him , be financially independent and just tell your parents that you do not want to marry a guy of their choice , life is long and you definitely will find a guy suitable for you and with whom you won't feel suffocated, see some people find love in their teens , some do in their twenties , and some in their fiftier it doesn't matter everybody has their own timelines and it's okay if you wait it's better than marrying the wrong person and destroying your whole life bcoz of that one decision

here patience is needed from both sides

space is a necessary thing but sometimes it can make other person feel distant

he needs to understand that never argue as it can make things wrong and he should talk it in a better manner