What's the reason for disrespects u?? do u know any exact reason for that
I belong to a different background. I am not like them ..way more straight forward, open minded and also I believe better in terms of merit and family. But I never showed any kind of ego.
acha ek suggestion doon, Aap agar unhe happy rakhna chahti hai to unke har wish ko pura kar dijiye, or unke saamne humesha soft Bane rahiye
See, she will act normal as I have already mentioned about her to you before. She will never share good news with me. ask me about my health or safety anything. How can I only be the one doing it??
aap jab free raho to unhe call ya text Karo, and unke baare me janane ki kausis karo, kyunki ladies apne problems share karna chahti hai, or uske liye woh insaan ko khojti hai, jis se aap unke close aa jayengi,
I stayed with her for some months. i used to sit in her room and talk for 3/4 hrs. yet then she behaved bad. and once i left now we don't talk at all. only group chats
ok means woh aapse jyada attach nahi hona chahti, Aapka selection unlogo ne hi Kiya hoga na, Aapki shaadi kinki pasand se Hui thi
love marriage. and ofcrse they wanted someone from their community and district. I am a Brahmin and also from city.
sorry mam, mujhe aisa nahi bolna chahiye tha
I am really sorry mam 🙏
no it's fine. but the thing is sister is not good and is mean. koi aur ne bhi bataya. usska khud apne sasural mein nahin bani
dont be sorry..
yeah mam, phir aapka try karna bekar hai, Kyunki mujhe nahi lagta woh aapko heart se accept karengi, but koi nahi aapko soft heart se try karte rehna chahiye
I don't want to try much. it must be effortless right? agar she misbehaves directly bol dungi kya? or should i confront why this behaviour?
no mam, woh aapke husband ki family se hai, phir aapke husband ko bura lagega, so please unhe reply mat dena, aapka relation hai ki aapko unhe jhelna hoga
wohi toh natak karte raho ..but if she acts nice when i visit why can't she call or MSG me too?
mam, shayad woh v formalities nibhati ho, Mujhe shayad wahi lag raha hai
yeah she does that. it needs some open communication
No don't go with any direct arguments, please keep patience, and show them, what's they want
thanks Vickey..you been a constant support. saturday I have to visit them..abhi se tension 😆
she does natak. even involves her son to be extra nice to me..why??
Best of luck mam, and don't try to overthink, Sab sahi hoga, bs aap apne pe control rakhna, or waha ache insaan ban ke rehna, Thode der hi to rehna hoga na
and I believe once the father in law n mother in law is no more..there will be no bonding only. reh jayenge husband ke behan aur bhabi..being bestiesss
after these conversations, i feel that, u are such a nice woman, So don't be sad for others and do ur best
bs aapke husband aapke supportive hone chahiye, unke alawa or Kaun kaise react karta hai, karne dijiye
accha hone se bhi kya faida..the whole family appreciates me but not my mother in-law or sister in law. they act as if they don't know my qualities. all they praise is the badi bahu
husband is good but sometimes when i complain we fight.because he also doesn't like to know about all these. but at the end he loves them and has met them before me. so even if they are bad they will be good for him. blood !!
woh unki galat selection ko dikhata hai, unhe dono ko same value dena chahiye, woh aapki feelings nahi samjh Rahi hai, Ladies ko to samjhna chahiye tha
toh main kya karun?? natak of being gooodddd and nice
yes mam, kyunki aap unke family ke against kuch bol nahi sakti, kyunki phir woh sab ek saath ho jayenge, or aap akeli
wohi toh. i posted their bad behaviours and showed a few of them. They don't repeat those yet nor I talk much. just call once a day
yeah, so keep the relation as a formality and don't try to attach with them
thanks... for being there
yeah we are always here for u mam, and please update the news of Saturday,
haha pakka..can you chat here with me?
like inbox ..
no any inbox in this app mam
okay..toh aapko status pehle bolna parega
u can informed me as a post, and haan main wait karunga update ka, koi guidance chahiye hoga to aap bata dena
you are so helpful. are you always happy ? why in this app
to helps other, And Make someone happy, Aaj ke din me log sirf rulana jante hai hasana nahi
really nice ! are you studying?
i am doing both working and studying
great ! keep being nice. Karma works 🥰
Thank u mam, And please do ur best, Mam waha gusse pe control karna aap, baad me mujhe bata kar jitna gussa nikalna ho nikal Lena
And Take care mam,
haha!! tumhe hi bolungi.. I will try to be friendly. I always gave them gifts from before. thinking to get something this time too
yeah sure, gift jarur dena, gift se relation ache hote hai, or unhe pasand v aata hoga
kab se de Rahi hoon. they won't wear what i gift or eat 😆😆
jab express kardia that am hurt them they started to praise
Aap to try kar rahi na, ab unhe samjh nahi aa Raha ye to unki galti hai, aap apne side se sahi ho, I know
God knows what I did !! even acted bad with my parents who visited first time.
I understood ur feelings, It's too hard to accept, What's they do with ur parents
when my parents said something nice about me the sister left. moreover, they were praising badi bahu infront of them. also didn't talk properly, the sister.
sach me woh log bahot bure hai, woh to apne sasural me v aise hi rehte honge
she doesn't visit sasural. only during festivals thrice in a year.
isi karan unhe relative ko respect karne nahi ata
they do bad with the other inlaws too . also they are unsocial. I got to know from one of the relatives. woh log kabhi ghul milte nahi hai. I do. Bass badi bahu, behan n mother in-law bestiesss
Aapki unlogo se shaadi se pahle kabhi baat nahi Hui thi??
mother used to talk. they visited also. rest two of the sisters i messaged sometimes. We had engagement also. It was normal . the abnormality was sisters dont talk on their own 😆
aap lucky ho ko unki shaadi ho chuki hai or aap sab saath me nahi rehti, warna unko face karna bahot tough hota
I stayed with them for some time. The bhaabi is sick so doesn't visit much. actually she has breast cancer and treatment is on. I stayed at inlaws place tried to be friends..but things turned bad
i hope everything goes well, and accept the behaviour of ur sister in law, because they are not change her won behaviour, so u can
ha wohi karungi...act normal and formal😆 She is only nice to bhabi rest noneeeeeeee
Hi Vickey, planning to go on Saturday. Just got an invitation from one of my husband's relative to attend a function on sunday. Saturday I will reach inlaws place at 3pm or so. will be nice and next day morning leave for the other relative's house. Will be back in the evening and coming back have food and rest . morning 7am Monday leave for my place. I just hope sunday wala plan thik se ho jaye. and we are allowed to go
Wow, kaafi busy schedule ho gaya, sahi hai, aapko jyada face nahi karna hoga unko, i hope aap v apne temper ko control me rakho, and sab nicely ho jaye
I will update you friend. I am even planning to ask the sister to join me visit a nearby relative on Saturday. Sunday the invitation is from inlaws side. They invited only me and my husband. woh log behan aur bhabi ko pasand nahi karte becoz they ain't friendly
yeah sure, And enjoy ur tour..
Vickey, just got to know father in law and mother in law will also join on sunday to visit the other relative. problem is whenever we visit mother in law comes up with orders like we have to visit someone else too. we have to visit things timely etc. help yaar. pura mood kharab ho gaaya.
oh ye to ek naya situation create ho gaya, jaha aap inse bachna chah rahi thi, ye log wahi aapke paas aa rahe, Means Saturday and Sunday dono din ye log saath rahenge
ha yaar . problem is them telling to visit other people or sometimes passing comments infront of others.
Are koi nahi, bs waha v aapko normal Bane rehna hai, or try karna hai ki unlogo se Kam Kam se mulaqat ho
and ye unki habbit hoti hai ki woh apni daughter in law ke behaviour ko lekar comments karte hai, ya phir other laws se comparison karti hai, but koi nahi, aap bs bold Bane rehna
I will be normal only. just I wanted to spend more time in the sunday event. Aisa Naa ho ki event pe Kam time dalke baki kahi aur Jane ko force kare..they got that habit
aapne apni sister ko invite Kiya hai na event me
I don't have siblings. baki husband ka sister shayad accompany na bhi kar sakti hai becoz the other relative doesn't like her.
phir to sahi hai, or event me apne husband ke saath rehna, koi kuch nahi bolega
I will try my best . To act happy and normal.
hi Vickey, things went quite good this time. they acted nice and friendly. touchwood. thanks for listening to me always 🌻
Oh Congrats, Phir to aap sach me kaafi happy hongi, Sahi hai, aap aise hi humesha react Karo, and woh log v humesha aapke liye ache rahenge
yes Vicky, I did everything like I did, got gifts, talked to them nicely. pata hai behan ne ek bhi bar bhabi ki tarif nahi kya issbar, am shocked.
mam, sun kar acha laga, but aapko koi gift Mila ya nahi, and haan humesha safe rahiye, kyunki relatives v politics karte hai, so humesha safe rahiye, and ek or suggestion sabhi family members ke saath polite rahiye
no gifts from them but yes mother in law gave food items. rest they are sweet might be politics too. but am staying neutral and good
yeah, Ab woh ache se call pe response deti hai na
yeah , accha hai
response is good and all. as if Aaj tak kuch hua hi na ho 😆 Pata nahin why so much of drama...
ise family drama kehte hai, and agar woh aisa nahi karengi to aap unhe Aisa respect nahi dengi na is Karan
Pata nahin but abhi bhi problem hai, I stay far from my husband and parents. also inlaws house is 2.5 hrs far. every month I visit my husband qnd I have to inform my inlaws. they keep count how many days will I stay. also my parents n husbands place is same. How to avoid that? last time i stayed 10 days but lied to them for 3 days.
if u visited at ur husband's place, then keep it private, don't share with anyone
wohi soch Rahi hoon, just hope woh log na ajaye mujhe visit Dene 😆
Hahahaha, jab tak aap or aapke husband silent rahenge, koi nahi aayega☺️☺️
thanks Vickey,you been really helpful. I stay two hrs away from them..Aaj tak toh nahin aaya kya pata , they might
No mam, Never leak ur privacy with ur relatives and laws, because they never understand ur feelings
you are the best one.. you been nice always
Thank U ☺️☺️
and u are also a soft heart lady, so keep smiling always
I will keep u posted.
yeah sure mam
guess what vickey. got to visit and stay in my inlaws place for two days. coming Thursday and Friday. I have official work in my inlaws area. iss baar bhabi is also there on Thursday.
Best of luck for tomorrow, and kausis karna ki last time jaise sabka Dil phir se Jeet loon
and sorry mam, i saw ur msg today, I am really sorry, I know u waited from last today's for my reply
koi na vickey, I thought you had not noticed. kal toh bhabi bhi hongi na, the one whom mother in law and sister in law loves the most !!
good Morning, Phir aaj pata chal jayega ki woh kahi bhabhi ke karan aapse rude behave to nahi karti hai na
let's she. they always love and appreciate her infront of me.
best of luck
hi, staying at inlaws place. kal subah will go back . people behaving well and good. As if nothing had happened.
very good, shayad ab sab log aapki value samjh gaye, i hope ye humesha aise hi rahe
pata nahin par, when I visit it's nice and normal. hopefully it lasts .
hi vickey. I am going to my parents home tomorrow. yes the same city where my husband also stays. everytime I go, inlaws keep on tracking my stay. even chachi and mami all calls. I go for my official work and then saty for some days for overall 7-8 days. last time I informed them 3 days instead of 7. This time I have official work as well my cousin's engagement. what to do?? should i tell the whole 7 days stay or lie.
No, never tells ur exact time to ur inlaws, and enjoy ur 7 days with ur parents and husband, and try to hide ur duration
but I have family engagement aswell woh bhi hide karde??
nahi nahi, woh nahi warna unhe kahi or se pata chalega to phir unhe lagega ki aap galat ho or aap baate chupati ho
Hello mam, Sorry for disturbs u, but now ur family members are ok with u na