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I don't want to get married now, but my parents are very eager and they select a groom whom they say to be the perfect person. They want me to meet the groom and then decide and they promised me if you say no after that we will agree to you.. but I just want to present them valid reason. Any idea on the reason so that I can escape from this please???

Samairah · Answer

well meet the person and then take a call. See if the person is not bad then why say no?

alerthare0 · Answer

No I don't want get married now

Samairah · Answer

okay then tell them this and still meet the boy. Make it clear to the person your meeting also and incase if he agrees to wait for you then take it as dating

alerthare0 · Answer

I am not mentally ready to get married. If I do with a compulsion it's not good for a relationship

alerthare0 · Answer

That person Is not ready to give time and they want the result as soon as possible

Samairah · Answer

Then tell him honestly what you want. There is no point in hiding or finding a middle ground. Be straight forward with the person

alerthare0 · Answer

Thanks for the help

gauranga21 · Answer

R u from India? I am also going though this anxiety

alerthare0 · Answer

yes

achuontrack · Answer

I think you should talk to your parents about how you feel. they might not immediately understand but it takes time. just trust the process and try. they will get u

alerthare0 · Answer

Yes but now I don't have that time as they are ready with groom and they want me to try once. This doesn't mean I didn't told them I already tried my best... After all this struggle they come the above agreement if I am not okay with any point then they will not compel me

achuontrack · Answer

if u really aren't interested in getting married, i guess u should keep on stressing. good luck, do what makes u happy

gauranga21 · Answer

wats ur age? m 30 little stressed  out coz still didnt find a bride, m frm assam, u knw society pressure and that feeling of loneliness

alerthare0 · Answer

less than 25 not that aged

gauranga21 · Answer

u knw ur at the right age, i am a little stressed coz m past my age, marriage is a big thing, i am on meds due to my stress

obsessedunicorn8 · Answer

meet him first talk with his friend and relatives and neighbours

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