Not being able to take a stand for self.

Question

How to stop being a people pleaser like I have a really ahrd time sayign no to pple and pple just take advantage of me how do I say no and do what I want what if I am ugly and don't meet pples expectation s ik I dotn have to do that but I just can't help but to feel anxious 😰 like in ym dance class I am the darkest and ym dance teacher always make the fair and preety one Stand in front and when I was standing to get water for a long time a girl just cut in ym way and took it she knew I was standing there for a long time 😰😰😰 and after that she gave it to someone else that someone else was really pretty maybe cuz of that pple might think I am overreacting and I can just wait but I just feel pple are taking advantage of me like I don't really like those pple but I still go to them and talk bout the thing si don't feel like talking just because I don't wanna be alone and boring there is this girl I am comfortable with am di really admire her she is okay being slonf and not a hypocrite liel me who goes to pple who I don't like ..........

ferventFlamingo1 · Answer

I do understand, try to focus on your skill , you will surely get recognised , nowadays I have noticed ppl are not really focusing on outside beauty, trust me everything will be fine ,

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

Don't aim to please people. Make your family your priority, because nobody else stays. It depends on you. Do you want to be taken advantage of? If not, then take a stand. Say NO. There's no shame in refusing, it's your choice. And don't worry about looks. If anyone judges you based on your looks, they've shown yoy their true colours and you can stay Away from them. Only those who respect you are your true friends. Next time anyone pushes you out of their way, don't stay quiet. Raise your voice and demand respect, so that others also learn a lesson and understand how to behave. The world is cruel. They'll be on their knees when they need us, but the moment you need help, how many do you think will stick up for you? Ask yourself this question before you aim at pleasing others. You need to be strong and confident!

humorousMagpie7 · Answer

Who do u want to please ? When there in someone toxic u need to stay away and have healthy boundaries . Dont be so kind that u r crushed by others . U r special and stay true to yourself . If u dont love yourself u will attract people who wont love u . So be positive and mindful about your own self image . Love yourself like u would love your best frd . And always be good but to good people. And forgive the bad ones . They r just immature. U stay happy and feel pretty . Lots of love 😊💞💗💕💗

I am not fit for anyone

I really want to change

help me please

I feel sick w stress