One sided love

Anxiety

Depression

Hey all I love someone who is also my best friend and I myself am a girl and she is a girl and we have been friends for the past 8 years.. I don't know what to do I have fallen crazily in love with there and I don't know what to do.. We have kissed intimately but we decided not to do that I was in a clear stand that I was loving her but I didnt realise until she got committed with a person and I started to have my adrenaline rush over me wanting to be with her but I know this won't happen.. One day I confessed her that I love her but then I told her it was a prank before telling her that it was a prank she didn't feel disgusted about me proposing her (I told her in chat as I had no guts to face her... I get struck when I see her eyes which is my weak point) she handled it very well and I even pressurised her by bringing up those kissing parts to make her awkward and confess that at one point she would have loved me and that's why she kissed me.. But NO she told simply that we were young and had physical needs so it's a mistake.. But after she getting into relationship I got totally devastated I didn't realise that I loved her this much.. I don't know what to do give me some solution should I have to confess her or should I have to be away from her.. But her happiness is mine she loves me like anything as a friend and now we are in long distance friendship and I don't how things would turn when I tell.. And her boyfriend is going to her place for his next future plans and they would be happy... I don't know what to do... Please someone give me some solutions... I have gone crazy for the last 8 years without confessing my love and even if I confess I lose her.. I'm not able to focus on my career please... Help me... Thank you

emptyMuesli6

22 Answers

Laboard45

It's okay to confess her , than to feel shit about not confronting infront of her. You know, love is something we grow inside of us. So if she loves you than she will be with you. But if she don't then let her be with the one she loves. Yes I know that will hurt a lot. I can understand that pain . But, atleast you could say to yourself someday that you were brave enough to love someone that much , that you let her go .. you are brave and strong. You can do what you want. 💞

insecurePolenta4

Dear, if she is happy with her bf, she can never love you. But u will be her bestfriend. Give yourself some positive affirmation, and stay strong. U will ve happy for sure..no one could buy that feeling from someone.

Yeah I could understand and I'm the one who made both of them to fall in love and after doing that I realised that I myself have loved her like anything and yeah she is damn happy with her bf.. But she has changed a lot I don't know is it that I love her and I expect more from her or is she really changed coz sometimes I ask her things which I used to ask her before she was committed but now she doesn't care that much she cared about him so much which makes me feel sad and depressed

She had me as 1priority in all things but now things are gradually changing

When I'm with her I get the feeling that I don't know her anymore and she is his gf and she won't be my gf this makes me to get hurt more day by day

People does changes. You will be hurt more if you expect more now. Now when she is in love with her boyfriend it's obvious her priorities will change and she will care more for him. Think about it in this sense. The feeling you have right now for her. The love, the care, and everything same feelings she pours into her boyfriend. So she is in love too.. and you have to respect that. True love was always meant for sacrifices. And remember you will be paid for your bravery someday. 🌼

stressedZebra9

Dear go to her parent and talk about your future plans and marriage 😊her boyfriend will always be happy that his gf married her 8 years friend 🥰🥰🥰

No that's not possible coz I live in a society which is highly judgemental 1st of all she must have feelings for me but she doesn't have that but she has kissed me on my lips but she told that it's for her physical needs but I really loved her and kissed her at that time

And she is one of the bestest who moulded me for these past 8years and I can't live without her but daily I'm dying inside seeing her with another person.. I m not able to focus on my career I know I cant get her but I m affected by so many things of her behaviour I don't know what to do.. I won't blame her coz it's all my fault I will defenitely sacrifice my love for her coz I know this won't happen for sure coz when I pranked her she told that she hasn't got any feelings and I m not a lesbian coz I haven't seen any other girl I'm interested in guys but with her I don't know what is Going on but I know this is love for 100%coz I want to do every thing for her.. I want to change this attitude is breaking me down and I'm being selfish not realising my parents sacrifices for me..

When I confessed during my prank she thought that I got feelings on her coz I had nobody but that's not the truth I wanna rip my heart out and pour out all my feelings to her but I was not able to coz she just thought that as a adolescent time needs.. But no I loved her for real and that's true

ferventFlamingo1

Confess your love towards her and wait , if she really loves you back then Don't worry about society I'm form india too I know how judgemental people are ! But she doesn't love you back ,I'm sorry just leave her , you can't force someone to be with you , if you force it will turn into harrasment ,face her and say boldy that you love her if you didn't say your love to her you will regret it for rest of your life ,I think she's in love with you but she's afraid of society !

I'm not expecting her as a lover I'm expecting her as a friend to do some things which she used to do when she wasn't committed but now that's changing and she is excited now that her bf is gonna come to her place in few days she is not that much open type with her feelings she hides her feelings and sometimes I want her to open her mouth but I can't blame this.. Coz that's her character.. Please help me I can't confess to her but if I'm friend with her I'm dying daily I'm not able to focus on my career and she can't be without me coz she loves me soo soo much as a friend what shall I do?

No she is committed for the past 4 years and I know if she had feelings on me but no she doesn't love me like that coz she is crazily in love with that guy and I was the one who made them be together by confessing both of their love to both like a mediator so I can't do this to her bf coz he s my friend too they are happy and I'm the one who is a disturbing creature and I have flighted a lot before not realising that I loved her and I'm expecting more and that's wrong coz I can expect more from her as friend but not when I love her so that's wrong I realised this lately and stopped fighting with her I mean fighting in the sense when we 3 go out together she gives him more attention than me when we buy something she asks and gives him 1st and sometimes she even forgets to ask me but I won't do that even when I get committed with a person coz for me friendship is my top priority and I would ensure that she doesn't get hurt at any possible ways.. I guess people aren't same and they change according to the situations and needs that's all

You just confess whatever happens let happens ,you can't be silent with having lot of feeling for her !

No I don't want to confess that is wrong if she isn't committed I could have thought about it but now it's too late and not good I just want to get out of this I want to be with her as a friend and I want to focus on my career what should I do give me some suggestions please..

Dear do not worry you and best friend can get married and we all will attend your wedding👰💍👰💒😍😍😍

It's 100%not possible in a society which I live in and apart from that she is not interested in me.. I want to heal from this

Please give me suggestions guys..

Dear are you homosexual? 🙃

That's what I told stressedZebra9 I'm not homosexual... I don't get attracted to girl I'm interested in guys only but with her it's totally diff I fell head over heels for her.. I don't know why

Please give me suggestions guys

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