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cockyOwl8Are in touch of any other colleague may at office or any other places...?
SunshinemeIts really devastating when our partner doesnt support or understands. Keepp trying to talk to him if it doesnt change then try to involve someone frm ur friends or family to intervene
Zoya AhmadHey! Thanks for reaching out. I can understand this must be very devastating for you, pregnancy being a new mom is in itself a roller coaster ride and as much under rated it is but the woman requires more support during such phases of life. Emotional support actually makes us deal with any situation. You can try talking to him by telljng him how much you love him but lately you’ve been feeling a few things, suggest him ways by which you both can make things work. Ask him about his opinion on the same matter, there is no problem in asking for emotional support. Be polite and kind when explaining this don’t sound stressed or agitated.Disclaimer:-
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debonairDoves2thankyou for ur advice .......i have tried talking to him but the matter is that i am unable to explain my point ....due to so much stress- Zoya AhmadTry to write it down somewhere first. Then you will be able to find out the points you want to discuss.Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2he always expacts from me to be mature in every situation and at the same time he asks me to be frank with him ....to express my feelings and emotions infront of him without hasitation ....dont know what to do
- Zoya AhmadI think you should sit with him, spend some quality time and then talk about how you feel. You should express, you don’t have to act to be mature in all the situations. Your partner should give the space to be vulnerable in from of him. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed and express how you feel. Don’t suppress your emotions it will effect you.Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves23thanks for ur advice ....i will make a try ...hope it will work
- debonairDoves2hello
- debonairDoves2as you told i have tried my best to convince him
- debonairDoves2but it didnt work at all ....i just want to die of shame that we cant even sit and talk together without having an argument ....dont know what to do
- Zoya AhmadNo please don’t lose hope. Things can work out. How did it change into an argument?Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2at first when i start talking him at night ....i was just telling him that last night u slept leaving me to cry ...that shut hurts me alot ...in returt as usual he replied that if u will cry on such silly things i will do that ......i lost my control and started crying ...and said that if something is silly in ur opinion that doesnt mean it will be same in mine ....atleast u should try to talk to me without arguing ....he asked me to stop crying but i cant ....thats it.....he started yelling at me ...than leaved me and layed in to bed
- debonairDoves2than i cried cried cried and cried for atleast two hours .....he than holded me and asked to stop crying and dont discuss anything ....hugged me and than we just slept that night
- Zoya AhmadI think you should first let your emotions flow. First have a control over your emotions. Then try to initiate a conversation. You have been holding up since a long time. That’s the reason you start crying. And it’s okay to cry. I think we should talk on call. I will be able to explain things to you in detail moreover I will listen to you. I think that’s what you want the most right now, then we can mutually talk about the solution of your situation.Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2the very next day i retried ....without discussing any serious topic....we just sat down ....had our tea....and have a light convo....than he said to me ...be like this always ...happy and smiling....i just asked him....u plzzz just talk to me like this always and i will be happy always ...we slept in peace that night
- debonairDoves2but last night again we had an argument
- debonairDoves2on just a silly thing that i have told him several times to talk to me in low pitch ...not to shout or yell at me coz from our room its very easy for our neighbours to hear whats going on in....and when u shout at me i feel embarrassed
- debonairDoves2but he always do that...almost every day ....so he does last night ....and whenever i react on that .....he gets triggered and it leads to an argument
- Zoya AhmadAsk him to have healthy conversation and discussions with you. Shouting will create a negative environment for the kid as well. We create the environment and values in our home that we want our child to imbibe. Why don’t you both sit and start everything from a clean slate. Set some rules for each other and try to follow that. Give each other time.Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2i know that these are not big issues ....i just want some little and silly things .. first of all i want him to talk to me ...to communicate with me ...to listen to me ...trying to understand me not giving me advices
- debonairDoves2secondly i want him to keep some privacy ....if something happens in btwn us....i dont want my in laws or neighbours to hear about that ....so he should not shout aur yell at me on silly things .
- debonairDoves2thats all i want from him.....i know that he loves me ....cares for me ....and so do i......but these silly things are ruining evertthing
- debonairDoves2cant he atleast starts listening to me ....what i am saying what i am feeling ....what do i want....whenever i try ...he starts advicing me.....treating me like a foolish child ...as if i am talking shit....and what i am talking about is not worth talking
- debonairDoves2cant anyone talk to him ....explain him...convince him
- Zoya AhmadWhy don’t you you talk to anyone in your familh who you are close to explain all of it and ask him/her to talk to your husband and convey to him what you feel.Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2i have tried to....but things got worse after that....whenever someone try to talk to him....he starts pointing out my mistakes instead of understanding
- Zoya AhmadI think he also has suppressed anger. He also needs to express how he feels and you should also take it constructively not in a way that he is pointing out your mistakes.Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2he points out my mistakesa to hide his own flaw....problem is he dont want to accept his mistake.
- Zoya AhmadYeah! He could also be having some problems. Have asked about his problem?Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves21yes ....many times...he says that he only wants me to be happy and cherrished always
- debonairDoves2he dont want me to cry....he wants me to tell him each and everythinv going on in my life and mind .
- debonairDoves2but as i told u....whenever i try to share my feelings aur thoughts with it leads to an argument
- debonairDoves2coz by sharing my feelings i expact him to understands my situation....to give m his emotional and moral support..but instead he starta questioning my mentality....tries to explain me that its not worth talking....without even listening to me properly
- Zoya AhmadAsk him to just listen to you once.Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2exactly ....thats my point ...he never listens to me completely ....without even listening to me ....he starts judging me
- Zoya AhmadCan you ask any of your other friend just to listen to you, if not your husband?Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2yes my elder sister ....she is like a friend to me and she always listens to me ....and she suggests me to leave the situation as it is ....but i think i am mentally disturbed bcoz of this ...sometimes i feel as my brain my body and everything has got numb all of a sudden
- Zoya AhmadYour husband won’t even consider couple counselling?Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2i have no idea about it
- debonairDoves2but mene apna to keh rkha h ....that need to visit a psychitarist
- debonairDoves2mjhe na hr wqt dar lga rhta h ....even bht silly si bt khne m b ....bcoz i have become emotionally so weak that....wo thda b kch bura ya tez awaz m boldete h to i cry for hours
- debonairDoves2mere husband bht achw h...mere liy bht kch krte h ...but unki argument ki habit ki wjh se ghr m atmosphere hi blkl esa hjta h as if we are fighting always .....so m unke sth blkl b comfortable feel nai kr pati hu ab..
- debonairDoves2and secondly....he is not thankful and appriciating towards me at all....istead he is always complaining
- debonairDoves2hmsha bs...yrrr saba tmne y nai kia....tmne esa kyu nai kia....even for silly things ...like....tmse itna nai bana k y hanky hi dholeti...etc etc bht silly si....
- debonairDoves2halake m pura din kaam krti rhti hu ....as u know being a mother ....theres a lot of stuff for me to do...upar sw phr mere ghr m meri mother in law k alawa koi aur lady nai h to zdatr sara kaam mjhe hi krna rhta h...she supports me and helps me ...but still bht kch rhta h krne ko ...pr m phr b y soch kr din bhr drti rhti hu k yrrr sham ko office se akr khi esa na ho k inhe koi chz esi lge jispe y kch bole aur as usual hmri argument hne lge
- debonairDoves2since last two three days ....i am avoiding to talk to him....ta ke ...koi argument hi na ho
- Zoya AhmadHow is that making him feel. How is his reaction towards it? I would recommend you to go to therapist rather than a psychiatrist. You really need to focus on yourself to make yourself emotionally stable first.Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2he is just normal toward it ....bs whi silly si bt p behes zrur kr rhe h abi b ...but i no more have energy to argue ...so m chu hjti hu koi jwb nai deti
- debonairDoves2what kind of therapist ?!!!!! i mean ...mjhe nai mlm is bare m exact ....would u plzzz guide me ?
- Zoya AhmadPsychologist. You can book an appointment with us.Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2i am from.bhopal ....where can i visit u ?
- Zoya AhmadYou can have a session on call.Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2i will look into it......mjhe lgta h k mere husband mjhe visit kraege ...agr nai then i will book an appointment with u soon
- Zoya AhmadIf your husband insists on making you a visit then book an appointment with the psychologist only.Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2sure
- debonairDoves2Thanks for your guidance
- debonairDoves21may almighty be pleased with you
- debonairDoves2hello there
- debonairDoves2Recently I talked to my partner about my issues and he promised me to try to help it out ....alhamdulillah abi mentally phle se kaafi better lg rha h
- debonairDoves2but mera husband k sth bond bht weird sa hgya h
- debonairDoves2dont know why but unke sth bt krnq time spennd krna ...ab bht zda uncomfortable lgta
- debonairDoves2May be bcoz ...I still have a lot to discuss with him...like our financial situation my worries about it ....my worries towards our son and his future etc etc
- debonairDoves2Can u plZ help me out
- Zoya AhmadBefore sharing it with him why don’t you write it down and share it here. That way your thoughts will be organised and you will know when to talk what. Don’t talk about all of it in one stance. Also i think you are always in the state of anxiety. Try to focus on the present not on the future much.Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2firstly....i am a relegious person....but shadi k bad akeli mere upar sari zimmedari phr itni jldi pregnancy aur abi as i told u 8 months ka mera baby h to mera sb kch ek dm messed up hgya ...as a muslim i hope u understand k jo kch routine m tha jo pdhte the wo to gya hi gya ab to namazo m b bht kotahi hne lgi
- debonairDoves2To mjhe is bt ka bht zda guilt aur afsos rhta h aksar Rona ajata h ... Bht koshsh krti hu manage krne ki but properly ho nai pta ....mjhe is bt ka bada bura lgtaa h k jb m hi thk se apne religion Islam ko follow nai krugi to apne bete ko kese sikha paugi kese follow krwaugi
- debonairDoves2mjhe usko manage krne k lie apne husband ka supporte chaiye rhta h m bht bar bol chuki hu unse k hm dono ko milkr krna pdhga ....beta hm dono kq hm dono se hi sikhega
- Zoya AhmadI can understand. But by the time your son you will grow you will also go back to your religious practicds. Right now it’s all very new for you. Don’t stress over it rather just try to do whatever you can. Religious practices are supposed to give us peace not stress. Think about it. Rather than offering your daily prayer in hurry it’s better if you do it one time but with peace and devote yourself there in that time. You will imbibe all the values in your son. Right now your priority is to make the ends meet. Focus on that. Try to be in the present and whenever you start to think about the future consciously bring back yourself to your present. Future worries is making you more uncomfortable than the present situation.Disclaimer:-
Nature of all the advices provided on this platform including Expert’s are for general information only because complete detailed clinical work up of individual not done. These advices in their all aspects are not substitute for Professional Medical Consultation and are not valid for MLC (Medico-Legal cases). All individuals are advised to consult nearest specialists.ExpertBook Appointment - debonairDoves2yes u r right....but esa downfall sa lgta h ...aur jo zrri h namaz wgera wto atleast hm dno ko milkr ada krni hi chaiye ...apko b pta hga ..wto hr haal m zrri h
- debonairDoves2aur m stressed out prayers ki wjh se nai blke unke na hone ki wjh se hu
- debonairDoves2aur mainly is wjh se hu kyuki me husband se is bare m clearly bt nai kr pati
- debonairDoves2Last night mene try Kia that thda bht bola Mene unse
- Zoya AhmadYou should follow what you could. If you have asked him about his prayers you will no longer be answerable for it. I get it how important daily prayers are. Whenever you get time just try to offer it. In any religion there is no hard and fast rule and rigidity just like in Islam we have been given the agility to offer prayers according to our convenience in the time of need or problem. Don’t force your ideology on anyone. Rather try to follow what you could you can ask someone but not expect that they will do according to you. Everyone wants to live up to their expectations.Disclaimer:-
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