we all feel that we are not good enough at some point in our life. All parents do that to make us do something by comparing us to someone. talk to them about marriage, that you need time to do something about your life. whats your course by the way?

Grall, I'm sorry to hear that you're in so much pain. We're here to help. Here are some truths about life that may help you feel a lot better: 1. No one and I mean no one has their life figured out at 20. You have just gotten out of college. Or perhaps are yet to. It will take you several years of working, doing jobs that are unfulfilling, difficult and challenging to know what you want out of life. As a young 20 year old, you are not expected to figure out life. You're expected to try and fail and try and fail and work hard and persevere. Side note, what course have you done? 2. No one knows there true self at that age. There isn't much of a self to know. For perspective, you were a 10 year old child just 10 years ago. You've yet to live a life and face challenges. Life is long and you'll learn more about yourself as you put yourself out there, try things, fail, meet people, etc. 3. Go easy on yourself. the expectations that you have put on yourself are unrealistic. You need to LIVE more and DO more to know yourself and what you want. It seems like you come from a family where everyone tends to make comparisons. This can make us feel very small and insignificant. Please try and remember that you are not worthy based on what others decide. Your parents belong to a different generation. By this age most people at their age were married. So them expecting the same might seem a bit less threatening if you realize that they are just thinking based on what they Know life to be. Don't let that get you down. Please answer some of these questions: 1. What do you expect out of your life? 2. Whats your course and what made you choose it?

I am a science student and I became slightly intrested in nutrition but after nearly graduating I feel my whole hardwork have gone in vain my course was unexpectedly hard but I still came this far now I no longer want to continue this course so I'm switching my major to english but I still feel I might not be able to get any job either ways and my cousin who my mom use to compare me with is doing engineering and I do feel incredibly small in front of her as we are same age we were always compared by every one not just my mom now they think I should get married as I have no future plans nor I have a suitable course which can provide me suitable job while my cousin out there living the life I wished for (excelling her career and hanging out with her friends and might later end up doing a job ) I mean I know I'm pathetic and I can't stop myself comparing myself with her I did tried to talk to my parents about my marriage content but it didn't work out and at this point I feel like i should get married (may be because that's all i hear my friends are no help too) but I feel suffocated in my house ,in my room every day it's hard to come up like I'm fine in front of my parents

I have a bad history with my relatives they hate me to core and I can't always avoid them and my mom always want me to act nice in front of them and handle like they didn't manipulate my mom to mentally and physically harass me ..I did my best for 2 years (even tho that day felt like nightmare I feel like I still live there )and the thing which hurt me the most was my mother who I trusted the most who knew me the best got manipulated and hurt me and still played the victim I wasn't cared for atleast 2 solid week I was particularly dead for my family no one approached me first I had many thoughts of slicing myself and giving up my life during that point cause ik no one cared but I still managed to come this far and put up a smile in front of my relatives and play the nice role my mom wants me to play but sometimes my relatives speak some words which haunt me and stay in my head which make me regret the choices of giving up my life

So if I understand this correctly, you had taken nutrition in college but shifted to English because you couldn't cope? Is that correct?

Yes I have completed my degree with nutrition and for masters now I will be changing to English literature field (will be writing the entrance soon)