problem in relationship because of past relationship

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There is this guy i was in relationship with what my fault was i didnt tell him something which happened before our relationship started i thought that might not matter but later that all he go to know our relation started in july he got to know in november and since then till today i get taunted on that and other thing is it was his birthday i didn't wanted to spoil his mood as he dont like me talking with my male friends so i lied i am not in contact with them anymore and same day he checked my phone and saw a conversation i realised my fault i said sorry and that guy friend of mine is no more my friend i still get taunts about it....i listen everyday that you are still in love with your ex....he say alot of wrong this but never abused me never cheated me never left me he just kept taunting and i got soo frustrated that i left him in august but in october i contacted again i thought i can change things but it went more worse he started saying that he will end his life in december i destroyed his life he will kill himself and on the other hand i was trying to make things normal one side he say he love me other side i am dying mentally i am not allowed to do whatever i want to although he never stops me but i just get taunts his whole family knew about our relationship...i love him but i am tired of taunts i am so frustrated what should i do what if he actually attempt any wrong step....what should i do

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7 Answers

Sunshineme

Hi, If you are mentally abused in a relation then its not worth staying in it. He dint cheat or stopped but has a problem you talking to any guy frnds, in future you will talk may be coz of work of even frndship, he cant keep taunting you and abusing you mentally. Have you asked him that why only in december he wants to commit suicide? Just try to get over him and slowly pull out all your connections with him. You deserve better

I dont know particular reason but he saya that he dont want to see nee year meet me one last time before december....yesterday he said that i made you sit on our shop as owner and you kicked me out of your life like nothing, my family treated you like daughter and this is what you gave in return in august i blocked him saying i regret everything we ever had i dont want to be with you anymore i dont care even if you will be last person on earth i will choose death over you and i realized later i said so wrong but i was not in condition i lost my both grandparents my uncle was on ventilator i was so stressed that i didnt knew wht i said in anger i apologized but still getting taunts i am tired of everything...he always throws my past on my face and on the other side he proves himself right in every damn situation he makes everything about himself he never care what i feel or his actions hurt me alot

Thats ok, you just ignore him. Try to break all connections. He is just blackmailing you. Trying to make you feel guilty. You need to be strong without fighting just slowly stopping meeting him, calling him and ignore his calls.

Sahitya MG

Hi. Thankyou for reaching out. It's great that you kept your self vat first and broke up because your mental health was detorating. Keep Boundaries or having boundaries is healthy. Try to get out of the toxicity. Also try connecting with one of your partners family members and tell them that he is planning to attempt suicide. So that they are aware of his situation and would keep an eye on him. Slowly decrease your contact with him .

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I told his brother about this all i said he need you all but he said please try again maybe you can change...i tried to talk but that all started stressing me alot and i was not able to concentrate on the other sides i have my exams in december and because of all this all i do is crying cant even tell anyone what i am going through i am tired of pretending i am okay...i am completely devasted just for his love i gave up on so many things he never trusted me and i now lost hope that he will ever do i dont know how to get out of all this i blocked him from everywhere but i am seriously so scared i hope he wont take any wrong step😣

It's good that you told his brother. I did you part as a well wisher. Now. Try diverting your mind and start studying. Whenever you get such thoughts. Distract yourself. Talk to your friends or you family spend time with them or go for a walk or listen to music .take a break and then again start studying.

Yes i will distract myself from all this thankyou😇

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