problems in present relationship because of past experience

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problems in present relationship because of past experience

I was dating a girl a year back and everything felt so blissful only for me to find out that she was just playing around with me and she just left me without saying anything, without any explanations. I felt it was the time to let go and didn't bother her again but i was really hurt. Now finally when i felt I've moved on, I've been talking to a girl lately and everything seems so similar between us just like i had with the girl i was dating. It makes me think of the past and i feel I'm not ready. But I've reached such a stage with the new girl where we talk to each other daily and we're really close, if i stay around her i feel all the things i felt in the past but it's hard ignore her because we both are pretty close. Tbh i wanna take a step back but i don't know what should i do

Blipintheuniverse

4 Answers
e_usher12
Well rather than taking a step back and spoiling your relationship, talk to her and tell her how you feel. Be open about your past and it wasn’t even your fault
Zoya Ahmad
Hey! Thanks for reaching out. This feeling is bound to happen because we tend to draw conclusions of our present situations from the past experiences we have had. But generalising everyone isn’t a solution. Give yourself a chance again. Talk about your insecurities with your partner. Tell her how you feel, talk about your expectations and see how you both can make things work. Try to trust your partner.
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Noor
I am in a situation where my partner left in a similar way. I feel I cannot even date again. So now see you are a step ahead of me. If you could date again, then maybe you could trust again too. Don't take a step back. Instead, give it a chance. This time just take everything slow. I hope this relationship turns out to be a magic, all that you have wanted. Have faith ✨
Blipintheuniverse
thank you so much y'all <3 i think i'll give myself another chance