problems in relationship because of long distance relationship

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problems in relationship because of long distance relationship

Hey everyone, Me and my boyfriend are in relationship sice last 2 years. He has moved to another citt for his further studies now he says that he don't have feelings for me. He is to ignore me like anything. Earlier he was commited with me for marriage but now he is not sure. Even he is confused that does he even love me or not. He says that he dont want anyone in his life he wants to focus on studies and when we talk something anyway talk turns into argument and than he blocks me. And for many days he dont even unblock me. He says he is not happy with our relationship. Earlier he was mad for me wanted to do everything but now tables have turned. Sometimes he says he loves and sometime says he is not sure. He even says even if he love you i dont want to be with me. What should i do to get him back?😭

Mrunali

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Sahitya MG
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Hi Mrunali. I am sorry to hear this. Since you mentioned he is busy with studies.Tryy giving him space ,so that contemplate on what he wants . Also try to keep your self occupied and distract yourself by doing something productive.
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Mrunali
Hi, He says he loves me but don't want to be in relation ship as he's studies are getting affected. what should i do with that? even he blocks from everywhere. I have a fear that he has started his studies at new place he will meet new people what if he gets another girl thats why I keep on contacting him. but he is not interested at all. But yet he says he loves me I feel does he really loves me or not because he never put an effort for our relationship.
Sahitya MG
I understand it must be hard when there is no reciprocation from other side. Give him some space as he said he is busy with studies. And when you indulge in overthinking ask your if your thinking is rational given that it's 2yr relationship and you might have good understanding and trust.
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Mrunali
But we are in a distance relationship now and he dont feel the same for me i am worried what if he gets into some other girl that makes me feel so anxious...what should i do
Mrunali
He is in other state and i am at other state we have no chance to meet dont know how to handle and how to make things back to the track please guide me
Sahitya MG
I understand your anxiety you can try one on one session with expert to work on your overthinking and Anxiety
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Lonewolf
In a relationship, if one person loves the other more than the other, it doesnt work. You can't forget those 4 years but you will have to accept that if he can live without you, you definitely can. You will have to learn to live with the fact that some people are just temporary. Even if theyre in your life for like 4 years. And they're not worth it. There are like so many people out there in the world. Initially youll be disturbed. But youll be even more if you keep thinking about it. Keep yourself super busy. Be career oriented. And the satisfaction youll get at the end of the day with a successful career, will be worth far far far more than a boy who broke your heart.