relationship issue

Question

I and my bf decided to get an abortion, he has been helpful financially, but i am going through a lot of emotional turmoil, he is married and hence when goes to his family forgets everything, no texts that how are you, are you okay, nothing, when i confront him, he gets angry and blocks me, he finds spending time with me as a stress, always looking at his watch, no doubt he has taken me for appointments, but nothing more, i need someone to be there with me emotionally, who understands what I am going through, it's very difficult, i spend my nights and days crying but when I ask him why didnot you text, he gets angry, what should I do? i feel so lonely, i can't share this with anyone else. i feel helpless.

nah · Answer

keep the baby & leave him. You deserve so much more than that. He keeps you for his own convenience whenever he wants to.

cynicalpear2 · Answer

Even I don't want a baby right now, i can't handle so much on my own, and have no one by my side, we have already started the process for the same.

cynicalpear2 · Answer

I know, that, but a little part of my heart thinks maybe he will do something nice, maybe he will consider my feelings, i don't know, going through a lot rn.

nah · Answer

Still hoping.. Being the other woman is much more difficult than being with a normal relationship. He has a family and obviously he don't want to lose that.

nah · Answer

You chose to be in that relationship but he's married, everyday you'll face the fact that he goes home with his family. You love him but you've got to love yourself more.

cynicalpear2 · Answer

it sucks being in this situation, i am physically very sick, can't find the strength to even move, and the one person I wanted to be with me, i somewhere enjoying his life.

nah · Answer

He gets angry because he doesn't want his wife to find out about the affair. He wants to be with you when he wants space from the reality of his world like stress, problems, tiredness etc.. He doesn't want any room for complaints, nagging, arguments because he already tons of that.

cynicalpear2 · Answer

and now when I find myself stuck, i feel guilt, he doesnot even care to call me once, or text me, it's emotionally exhausting.

cynicalpear2 · Answer

you are right, so when he needs comfort he is with me, but when I need, he is nowhere to be found, i feel like ending my life.

nah · Answer

Yeah. He's enjoying his life, his day.. without taking time or a little effort to communicate with you how you've been feeling right now.

nah · Answer

He's living his life. Live yours as well. He's living a double life while yours is half. You can learn a new hobby or practice self care. How about level up your beauty! new hair color or new nails.

cynicalpear2 · Answer

Exactly! I have no idea what to do?

cynicalpear2 · Answer

i will try that, once I am over this depressing phase

nah · Answer

maybe we should do things together if you like the idea.

cynicalpear2 · Answer

i don't feel like doing anything.

cynicalpear2 · Answer

we can think about that, but right now, i just need emotional support , someone to hold me and tell me that everything is okay you can get past this, you can do it.

nah · Answer

take time. cry it out. everything takes time.

nah · Answer

Okay, I'll be here emotionally.

cynicalpear2 · Answer

Yes, thank you

satesh · Answer

if u don't want to have baby, it's upto you. but slowly you have to move away from him and start new life where someone be there for you always.

cynicalpear2 · Answer

@satesh yes it's very tiring to hold onto someone who is not available, i feel at the lowest of my life, my eyes have swollen, it's been a difficult phase, but i don't know, why does his heart doesnot ache a bit.

satesh · Answer

even if his heart ache a bit, he will not come to you as he has his family as first priority. don't make yourself fool by you only. you knew from before only that he has family so u can't expect from him. affairs is ok if u two fell for each other but having baby is not a good option

cynicalpear2 · Answer

But when you are okay with getting physical and making the decision of having an abortion, so why not give a bit priority for a while, when i need it.

satesh · Answer

true. he shud understand that. but if he is not, then first go for abortion in proper way and then u two can talk about issue. I understand what you are going through but I want you to give first priority to what u want to do with ur pregnancy. others things can wait

cynicalpear2 · Answer

going through the process, and how can I talk to someone who has blocked me, by abusing me, saying to hell with your life. i just said why were you not available, you should have texted me once, atleast.

satesh · Answer

that's bad . it's tough and it's best to be away from him in future. learn from past and move on and never do same mistake again. life is precious and beautiful. live it your way

rie · Answer

😭😭😭😭

obsessedunicorn8 · Answer

see first its ur mistake ....second tell yourself it is completely ok 3rd never be physical with some one u dont know well and i know its hard for u but he is not right for u if u give him chance he will play with u again so stop giving ur life remote to someone ....instead find someone which can help u forgot him and moveon see he is not right hiy for u and relation with married guy means killing ur self from inside slowly and slowly so stop killing ur self i know its hard very hard but dont loose hope dm me personally i will talk with u and i will try to help u ....but yes dont ask me personal questions i am helping u becuase i think u need my help but dont ask my identity mam .......

I am not fit for anyone

Unloving

reviewing

Need someone to talk to!!