Relationship issues

Question

I have a cousin sister who is my soulmate, my bestie. after her mother died I treated her just like my own daughter as we both are single child we are there for each other. but i hate my sister 's boyfriend because the day he arrived in her life she is going away from me I feel that strongly. her priorities changed, I was her best friend and now she is more inclined to him, ignores me and even hides or speak lies to me. I strongly feel that guy is not good for her and whenever I tried to tell her she gets agitated with me. My relationship with my sister is getting worse day by day and I fear one day she might leave me for him, I feel so insecured. what to do? how to make our relationship better just like our old days? Sorry to say I can't trust her also nowadays because I feel she is always brain washed by her boyfriend. I really can't loose my sister, she is my only lifetime support and I love her very much just like my daughter, I can't live without her 24*7  365 days. plz help me

kaushikind · Answer

ur age and ur sisters age

emptymallard2 · Answer

this had to happen one day,our journey on earth is all alone , the earliest you understand it you will understand life

Tithi · Answer

my sister is 7 yrs younger than me

dhaval99 · Answer

not very sure , but it probably won't get normal till she realises it. by realisation I mean , a hard one which would create a huge impact on her . if not , she's enjoying her life anyways. I am not suggesting you to adjust , obviously not ! you can keep trying to make her realise , hopefully she'll someday. as previously said something impactful or big must happen for her to know other things matter as well.

kaushikind · Answer

so go and say ur didi that how much lover her .

Tithi · Answer

I tell her always how much I love her .... but I feel she took me for granted... that's why she can hurt me now a days very often...

dhaval99 · Answer

love makes a person crazy , it's probably the same phase for her. there's nothing that goes up and never comes down , so give her time she'll come back .... I don't believe in love though.

Tithi · Answer

I pray to god she realises and comes back soon @dhaval99... she is only constant support.... and I love her care for her more than anything else in this world... she is my world...

dhaval99 · Answer

I hope the same happens... btw if you don't mind can you tell how old is your sister ?

Tithi · Answer

my sister is 29 yrs old

dhaval99 · Answer

I see , trust me it's hard to get the same bond as before . all i can say is , try to find some way to keep yourself happy. if you keep worrying about her , it won't work . it's just gonna cause you problems. I hope you get it . she's a fully grown adult.  he happy @tithi

Tithi · Answer

she is adult no doubt but she is immatured.... and that's what I fear and that's why the bf can easily brain wash her against me all the time... Such a jerk I tell you 😏

dhaval99 · Answer

agreed some people are super brainwashers though.. similar kind of incident brought me to this site as well..🥲

Tithi · Answer

thanks for atleast lending me your ears @ dhaval... ye sab baatein kisise share karne se man bhi halka hota hai, kuch advice bhi milti hai how to handle the situation .... atleast I am a bit feeling better now.... earlier I was highly depressed and frustrated when I posted it....

dhaval99 · Answer

@tithi always !  not done much but it feels great to actually listen , advice and learn.. I've been through a lot as well. so i keep helping people by any means !

Tithi · Answer

yes we should help people and lend our ears so that we can save lives from getting ruined and committing suicides....

dhaval99 · Answer

@tithi i don't know if someone agrees with it . I think world is full of fake people , the only real ones are our parents.. end of debate for... moreover I don't trust a single soul

dhaval99 · Answer

ya , exactly as long as it saves someone , we could keep doing that.

Tithi · Answer

so true.... I agree with you... I can't believe anyone either.... all her such hypocrites...

Frustrating

help me please

how do I change for the better?