Is it our own toxicity or others?

l have tried taking strong decisions and this strategy works

others.. I once read that toxic people go everywhere and they stay where they can... I realized being an empath with a trauma response of trying to help and fix others, I ended up with toxic cousins clinging to me.. toxic friends and well now... keep attracting toxic partners.. I don't want to be the case anymore. hence need strategies.

I have also met many toxic people in my life. It is very difficult for us to understand such people. But they all have one thing in common, They can act well in life. They understand our weakness and trap us. The strategy I use now is to 'never make our vulnerability visible to anyone'!

I tried that deep_thinker. eventually what happened is.. you end up so guarded that yes, you cannot be hurt but then at the same time.. you cannot trust or be emotionally available. I mean that's what happened with me.

isnt that good?

what's good.....?

like now someone has to earn your trust to talk to you. like imagine you are in a Pokemon world so now you have become a rare Pokemon meaning a person has to win a great ball(trust) in order to be your acquaintance or friend. so now you won't be good to people for free and also if you are good at something never do it for free

did you just sold me to myself?! I literally teared up🥺

wait what

@itadori💯

I mean I, got what yours saying and I appreciate it.

no wait i meant that now only people who can earn your trust will be getting your goodness in return

yeah yeahh.. I got sweetie..

ohhhhh I thought I was about to get reported, i almost shat myself damn

God no!

thank god

thanks cockylizard3

everything said here is correct until u become so guarded that u can't bring urself open up to anyone, ending up bottling ur emotions to the point u r emotionally numb.... I don't need to continue further tho, look for red flags(quite repetitive), when u find them cut that person of ur life. p. s- showing ur vulnerability doesn't make u weak- but don't give them that satisfaction that it can possibly affect u

see... now you get what I'm saying!!