sessions of crying, affected by being judged

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sessions of crying, affected by being judged

Hey... these days im crying a lot because of no reason. absolutely no reason. it feels so wrong because the crying only takes place sometimes, but when it does its intense. im genuinely happy at other times. i am myself. but i get sad afterwards because im constantly being judged for that image that i show. im a person who believes that you can have atleast 2 images or more. so why am i judged on only one image. are people so blind that they cant see behind the mask? its so obvious to me that im acting sometimes. and i even drop them clues. this also makes me have low self esteem and frelings of inadequacy coz apparently, my loved ones do not criticise any other person of my age- atleast not as much. but when it comes to me. its always about complaints. why do i have to laugh? why do i run like this, is something wrong with my hands? and then i have to go in full details that i like to run loosely when its not for something. why cant i do it vecause i like it. recently u was also asked by my father to wear girly clothes, because i only like to wear shirts. and im not exaggerating it if i say that whenever i wear anything crosses my shoulder bone- he gets more uncomfortable than me. im a sensitive person. those things affect me a lot. and the fact that i dont have the pretty face people want doesnt help much. and i cry. why though!! my eyes are burning right now. ive just got up from fever. please help me. help me by giving some realistic tips of how not to care about people. ive seen whats found on the internet and it sucks coz it doeant even work- duh!!!! please help. i want to stpp my tears T_T

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Zoya Ahmad

Hey! Thanks for reaching out. Nobody likes to be pointed out, I am sure you must be feeling terrible. What I can understand from this that you’re being too harsh to yourself. You need to accept yourself the way you are first, then people will automatically stop pointing you out. You have to be assertive and set boundaries with the kind of information you share with everyone, if you shade everything about your feeling with everyone they will judge you. It’s very natural to be feeling something different and showing a different feeling on the face. And if you don’t like any comment or anything just politely tell them that it affects you in a wrong way. Crying will only make your problem bigger and make you feel helpless, rather share why do you cry? Is there any reason? You have to learn to appreciate your body and how you look everyone is beautiful in their own way. You don’t have to comply to certain societal way. You can be you and still be very beautiful. Is there any other reason you feel bad about and it ultimately leads you to crying?

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Thanks a lot Zoya for that wonderful advice. but the trouble is , i already tell them what is making me cry and even after that they dont stop. like nothing ever happened and i never told them that i felt hurt. when it comes to sharing information, i think i might be doing that a little too much, but then can you tell me some other alternative coz like before coming to this app, who dis i have to confide to except dishonest and disloyal supposedly 'closed ones'!... also (i know im troubling u a lot but anyway) can you suggest some ways how i can learn to accept myself. coz as i said earlier, taking the help from internet sucks coz i feel like im trying to accept myself and still failing. n also, my self esteem is a bit down these days so how do i become more comfortable living in my own skin?

You are not troubling me at all. If you don’t trust people for your feeling you can always try journalling. Write your thoughts. Accepting ourselves is along route you will have to continously give your self positive affirmations and start to believe it. It will take time. But focus on your happiness and care less about what other people are trying to tell you. If you thing anything is right and you feel good about it- do it. Focus ok yourself and pick up things that are long due in your list. It will help you in having a sense of accomplishment. Do small tasks and treat yourself.

thanks a lot for thar advice zoya. but i think ypu would not blame me if i find it hard to follow, cause these actions are actually very difficult. and one or two days after reading this i was happy and now im back T_T

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