I would suggest rather than adapting to people, just let them see your true self and trust me that would be the best thing to do not only for others but for your own confidence as well

Hi thankyou for reaching out. It's important for you to remove the mental block that you might make others uncomfortable. Don't think much if other will like it or not. Just go and making conversation I understand it might be tough. But with practice you can. It's all about taking the first step.

My story is quite a similar one. Been through all of what you’re saying and still dealing with it. Constant guilty feelings, feelings of not being good enough, judging myself for every act, over criticism of myself, risk avoiding attitude, all mixed together and I only tried to make other’s happy while being sad myself so that I make up for everything I do that makes me feel guilty or unworthy. Having said that, I know I have to deal with this chaos alone because it’s in my head. Currently, I constantly put myself in difficult situations and try not to judge myself for failing in dealing with it and only focus on what best I can do to get out of it. I’ve started considering me as my close friend who needs help and try and help her in every possible way. Whenever you feel low or guilty or unworthy, try this therapy of looking at your problem as your best friend’s/siblings’ problem and you’ll feel lighter. Instead of indulging yourself into the problem, you’ll look for solutions because. Also, understand that it’s a phase, you’re more than what you think you are. I too am dealing with the same trouble. Let’s be considerate towards self. You’ll be fine soon. Love and regards.

Hi. A lot of times these fears are only within us. And they restrict us. If you feel more comfortable maybe in an online mode, you can try to make friends and meet new people online