someone help?

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he barely talks to me its been 6 months of long distance now. everytime i complain him that why don't he give me his whereabouts and stuff he just say he has restrictions at home or he is busy with some chores. he was not the same guy. every month i keep patience and then tell him its getting hard but he just apologize for making me feel so. and every single time he says ' i am trying'. i have even stopped feeling connected to him. it feels like he only calls me when he needs some help.

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

Maybe you should talk to him about it onr last time and see if he changes. Don't waste your time and energy if he is not returning the same

nikki30 · Answer

u said u stop feeling connected to him... then this is the time you need to think for yourself ur rights and wrongs...what u have to do... stop making urself feel low

its__me · Answer

i tell this to him every month and he apologize for it and says he's trying. he's too scared from his parents and idk how he gets no time@excitedtomatoe7

Recovering_babe · Answer

please think about, yourself and how you are feeling after every interaction

Recovering_babe · Answer

if you're guessing where you stand with him.. know that you aren't a priority

Vai · Answer

were things initially the same .. now y isn't he able to manage, pehle he was able to

its__me · Answer

@recovering_babe i just feel like its me bothering too much about the relationship and putting too much of my energy. he once said he feels it like a compulsion to talk me everyday

its__me · Answer

we used to live together in hostel when this relationship started. now things happened and we are in long distance. @vai

its__me · Answer

i used to daydream a lot about our future together but now i just feel like i don't even want to talk to him because of his ignorance towards me for all these months

Vai · Answer

since when long distance started

its__me · Answer

its been 6 months

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

If you don't want to, then don't. Talk to him about it one last time if you think it's worth a try. If he doesn't change, then you know what to do

Vai · Answer

n these 6 months he didn't give u time kya bilkul bhi

its__me · Answer

initially he used to talk to me almost everyday but few days later all of it turned like this

its__me · Answer

@excitedtomatoe7 i did a few days ago only. and im frustrated from all of this but then i get a second thought that he never raises his voice at me or get angry even if i do. will it be fare if i will end all of it? what if it then affects him because he cared and i didn't t see his love and care all this time

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

He is ignoring you and you're trying to find his hidden love and care for you? Don't get emotional. Think about it, see what you want to do and make an informed decision

its__me · Answer

@vai i never know what's he's doing where he is what did he do all day or he got some new update. barely a 15 min chat or a facetime where i used to tell him and he used to keep shut all the time

Recovering_babe · Answer

Give him 3days. no text no calls no nothing. if he reaches out.. it's good. if not.. why do, you wanna be with someone where you're ignored for more than 3days?!

its__me · Answer

he just keep saying long distance is being tough for him. he's too innocent he doesn't even understand when people make fun of him. i am really confused about this situation.

Recovering_babe · Answer

the three days trick will give you clarity.

its__me · Answer

@recovering_babe we will be back to hostel in a month or two so for now he's busy with some documents i guess. he calls only for help with those documents. so i think i can try to do it once he's done with the work. because it has some deadlines

its__me · Answer

@recovering_babe thankyou so much. i also think it will work

its__me · Answer

what do you guys think?@excitedtomatoe7 @vai? you are males right? you must have some opinion over this

Vai · Answer

idk dear, I am a girl .. but it's like there must be some clarity na

Vai · Answer

there must be a clarity, just ask him what exactly is the problem, sort it and clear it, u feel compulsion, if u don't miss me n whatsoever it is, just tell it, filaal I may feel bad but then I would be clear about ur feelings, if u don't miss me, if u don't have such things just sort it out, won't bother u with fuss then

its__me · Answer

he just says im sorry i made u feel like this asa nhi h ye nhi h vo but his actions doesn't match his words.

siri42 · Answer

hey your story kind of relates to mine.... minez also long distance it's been 8 months but recently we met cuz he came from hostel..... he always reassures me and tries his best to make me understand his situation and gives his best to hold on the relationship well it goes the same with me....it actually depends on individual..... we kind of overthink but the other one has to assure and and comfort with words to calm us if he doesn't and rather play victim card always it's better to leave than to be in toxic relationships I can't tell you surely but you have to know

siri42 · Answer

I just read the whole comment section Im pretty sure that he is kinda ignoring you cuz no onez that busy to atleast spend some time with your loved ones if he really does he'll try to make some time

siri42 · Answer

and it can also be another way that he is incapable of balencing love and life properly may be...ask him to time to talk something about this seriously and ask him all the stuff that's going in your mind and even after that you feel the same it's better to leave

its__me · Answer

he don't realise by himself that what he is doing is not right. he just says' long distance is hard for me' before me he was in some weird relationship in school. i asked him so many times how did he manage that but yeah ik they were in same class then so maybe meeting was enough to feel togetherness. even when we stayed at hostel once he said if we will rent an apartment he won't live with me. and now he keep saying that we will live together and stuff. but now i don't feel like living with him because of all this. he himself has made mess out of all this

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

I agree with @recoveringbabe.. Ignore him for 3 days and see if it bothers him at all. Then you know what to do. Be assertive and make the right choice

its__me · Answer

thanks for suggestions i will try it for sure

help me please

how do I change for the better?

I love him so much and just feel empty without him

my brother is soooo hot 😍