stressed about relation because of different religion

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Relationship Issues

I'm totally feel stressed of my love life. we're of different religion and from different life style . we have different opinions in our life .he wants me to be modest and sometimes I feel like it oppress me.he hates my family my friends even me for being Myself.he is always being rude and use swear words on me. I thought it's bcoz of my past mistake so I tried to be patience but for its not changed for years.he feels that I'm totally easy for a man and he feels I'm not loyal to him .. I even tried a lot to make him understand but he never listens to me and always standing in his point .i don't know what I'm going through and even feel bad that I'm not a good person at times.it makes me feel unworthy and sometimes makes me feel that he deserves more..when I try to get away from him he holds me and beg.i can't look for other men in my life.but I scare that he'll loose his time on thinking the worst part and concentration on his future.we had the best time but why it's changed. I can't figure it out .most of the times I feel completely broken.what shall I do?I don't know how to deal with it and it makes me frustrated day by day

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Zoya Ahmad

Hey! Thanks for reaching out. I am sure this must be really stressful for you. Have you tried sitting and talking to him politely? Try to ask him what are his expectations and tell him yours. Ask him how you both can find a middle way. Tell him that you’re loyal to him and how you feel about him. Tell him that you are looking forward to bigger and better things in life with him and you are very much concerned about his career. Try to talk to him more and spend quality time with your partner.

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we can't spend our time with each other .we are living in distant cities.its about a year we met and all our conversation is through texts not even through phone calls.day by day we are getting apart.what can i do for this even the distance makes him feel insecure.even to me i feel insecured.he didn't like me.even he says that to me. sometimes I feel like sucide is better than experiencing these things.help me to sort it out

I think you guys should try to rekindle your relationship, start talking more.

now I'm trying not to reach out for him.and he remains the same.but I feel really badly talk to him and also getting feared of the things that will happen next of constant misunderstanding and fights.i don't know why I'm being like this.i want this frustrating relationship to be over but it's hard for me to getting out of it .i really don't know what to do and this drive me crazy .my hands tries to call him once and text to him but my mind says it leads to worst nightmare. I'm going out of mind. I want him badly and always want to be next to him but even he Loves me or not at least I don't want him to make me feel like a shit . why can't he understand me and At least control his swear words on me.i want him but I don't want un necessary conflicts. .It makes me crazy even I have my Family and friends I feel all alone I can't get out of his thoughts.i even try my level best but end up thinking about him.please help me to sort it out. please

How’s his reaction? I mean what kind of conversation are you people having? This clearly shows that you’re disturbed. Do you mind connecting on call?

I'm 21 years old and I met him through Instagram.at First we have been good friends.but later on after a year we felt that something beyond friendship .so we exchanged our hearts.but after getting closer he became so possesive which I can't handle he restricted each and everything including social media he felt insecured of my past mistake .he says that he can't believe me but he can't leave me as he Love me blindly. at first he make me feel special but later on he treat me like a shit and emotionally abused by using swear words and discourage me constantly. and here we are now the relationship got completely broken.he cries like a baby when he leaves me we rarely spend time with each other because of our distance.but on other days he treat me like a shit. whatever the things happened I really miss him.even I miss him a lot and love him I can't make him understand because of his short temper.even I know that's it's good for us to be apart but I can't handle this situation of missing him.it really make me dumb minded.and it drive me crazy

Have you tried talking to him about this that you don’t like it. He is using his temper because he knows that you’ll eventually bear with it. I am not asking you to start a fight but it’s important to assertive in a relationship. Have you read about ‘stonewalling’ in a relationship?

even I tried it .but no use on it and got a name like I'm reckless and I'm moving to a next relationship..whatever I try to fix the relationship no use out of it..it ends up like I'm the one cheating .how can I Handle this..my efforts are worthless and I don't know what to do with such kind of person.

Read about stonewalling and tell me if you feel the same?

help me please

how do I change for the better?

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